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Maybe Mama was wrong...
Are you getting through to her?
Could he be a Taken in Hand man?
Three steps forward, one step backwards
Face to face
How do I broach the subject of Taken In Hand?
The Committed Marriage
Is it time to just give up on this relationship?
Can being monitored and punished be used to help me lose weight?
Does it sound as though we're on the right track?
Noticing and noting the positive
This site no more?
I stand at the gates (a man lost in how to begin)
DD relationships - the view of a mental health professional
If I give him unrestricted access to me sexually will he still want me?
Is there a fine line between taking charge and being domineering?
Can a Taken In Hand relationship be intellectually enlightening for the man?
How a strong women can show she wants a take-charge man
Damsel in Eustress
A mysterious compulsion to obey
Softly taken in hand
A year of new management
Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasure
When the heart finally comes home
Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wisely
Saying so
Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In Hand
As the head of our household I put my wife first
Journaling: another way to talk
Saying "no" as code for "I care"
What's in a name?
What a man gets from Taken in Hand
"No" means "take me"
A childhood memory
How to find out if a man wants a Taken in Hand relationship
Don't be an "if only" person
Sleeping positions, rituals and control
Why is commitment important?
Why the "Wow!"?
Saying "no", leadership and chocolate
A high-dominance woman taken in hand
What should the "Taken in Hand" book include?
The power of the feminine "please"
Exercise authority
Taken out of my anguish
Forget femininity!
Work - don't be afraid of that four letter word!
I don't want to be submissive!
Responding to his loving control
Man of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin: a book review
Setting the record straight about punishment spanking
Are your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?
Why does physically taking your wife in hand work?
The ways we do things
A dominant man brainwashed into submission
Agreements are a two-way street
Is the idea of fairness causing trouble in your relationship?
Fascinating Womanhood and the ideal woman
Laura Schlessinger vs Helen Andelin on how to treat your husband
Fascinating Womanhood and me
Taken In Hand through chronic illness
Why my wife needs to be spanked
She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in hand
Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationship
Lessons from my marriage for wives wanting their husband to take them in hand
ReMorseful
An expression of his authority
This man's authority just IS
How Taken In Hand makes the mundane erotic
Living the fantasy 24/7
The King of the Dark Chamber, by Rabindranath Tagore: a book review
His word is final
It's not because he's infallible
The passion of the tango
Imagining my marriage as one long road-trip
Is taking his wife in hand self-sacrificing for the man?
Crossing a hurdle
A happy end to marital deadlock
How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?
Changing for him - pleasing for me
Truth and life
Taken In Hand - the bare essence
It takes two to tango
What control means to me
Being yourself
Egalitarian dating vs accepting gifts graciously
How my husband set me free
The man who doesn't give a stuff about labels
Is Taken In Hand bad for women who were abused in childhood?
Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatrist
How my dress has changed
Strap-on Epiphany, by Virginia Vitzthum: a comment
This place in my life feels right
Dominance through sustained eye contact
Getting your rocks off
It's not really natural for either of us
Don't frighten the horses
A marriage of understanding, passion and pregnancy
Can you tell a submissive woman?
Where these men come from...
Pleasing your man makes you feel more lovey and lusty
We were virgins when we married
How I discovered what I need
Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd: a book review
Two different women...
She wants him to prevail
Nostalgic? Not a bit!
A smile man
Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...
Back in the swing of things
Superficially non-consensual but deeply consensual
Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?
A few thoughts on crying
Under new management
Is Taken In Hand control real?
How to read this site
Things can change
How Taken in Hand has transformed my wife
So grateful - Taken In Hand has set us free
Spanking in anger
Saved by the spank
Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a review
I never learn
Good communication
BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationship
To promise or not to promise?
Needing my wife
Loving, supportive and kind control
Taking her
A man in charge needs to be firm and steady
A man with a backbone can be very soothing
Men demanding sex
How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilities
SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?
Is it real?
Being with a stronger man allows a strong woman to relax
Attracting girls as a nice guy with a capacity for violence
Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers: a book review
Blossoming in his arms
I blame the knee-jerkers
Passing it on
Handle with care... and honor and fidelity
This man
From clues to a wonderful reality
Bonded by rape
When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...
Men serve and lead, women receive and obey
The Future of Men, by Marian Salzman, Ira Matathia and Ann O'Reilly: a book review
What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?
Letting myself go
How are things different from before Taken In Hand?
Enjoying consensual sexual aggression
Three female film characters I admire
My friend, my lover, my rock
Our type of Taken In Hand marriage
A man leads with love and kindness
Reassurance for those new to all this
My first Taken in Hand experience
Growing up
Who cares what others think?
A man released from his pseudo-beta torment
Thy Rod and Staff, by Edward Anthony: a book review
Missing my husband’s control
Protective men
Mr Darcy, Mr Knightley and the Taken In Hand ideal
The making of a dominant man
What are my rights as a Taken In Hand woman?
Effect positive change by acting as if...
He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?
Pornography prevents and corrodes relationships
It's all my parents' fault!
Resistance is futile
Not a lower-case girl
How our relationship has changed
Who is the sexiest woman in the world?
A difficult wife
Fear of domination
A beginners' guide to spanking
When love transcends a weight issue
The NOW Habit
What is the alpha male's secret?
Flying by the seat of your pants
My full and complete surrender
Si vis pacem, para bellum
Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?
Saying things for effect
How do you maintain control in little ways?
The power of a woman who submits to her man
Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?
A deep and satisfying marriage
How we have stayed happily married for over 30 years
Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!
Who wants a slave?
If you want to use an article from this site...
Take her in hand without lifting a finger
How can I be sure he's monogamous?
A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the couple
What causes contrition and crying?
An overview of Taken In Hand
We should consider ourselves so lucky
Is spanking necessary in a taken in hand relationship?
My Review of Laura Doyle's "The Surrendered Wife"
Is spanking always sexual?
Coming unravelled (or not)
How to not to please a Taken In Hand customer!
The man ordering for the woman in restaurants
The Night Porter: movie review
Submission must be earned
Our journey through BDSM to Taken in Hand
Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!
Being open to possibilities
Give me intensity or give me death!
Giving each other what we need
How do you make housework more fun?
Feminine submission and traditional language
Women who take responsibility for their own actions
Holding coats and opening doors
Impregnation
Is he driving you mad?
Exit To Eden: the movie
Magnificent man or merely male?
Shades of grey
A risky strategy but it worked for us
Do you have unrealistic expectations?
Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?
He: An Irreverent Look at the American Male, by Florence King: an excerpt
Narcissistic dominance vs Taken In Hand dominance
I am a strong woman but I want to be taken in hand. Is this normal?
Taking Sex Differences Seriously, by Steven E. Rhoads
Tom Jones, by Henry Fielding: an excerpt
Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In Hand
Love Is A Decision, by Gary Smalley: a book review
The word “anah” in brief
Who's afraid of the big, growly lion?
Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in hand
Equality through Taken in Hand?
Foreplay
The missionary position
Keep your sense of humour!
Sublimated desires
The crooked path to where we are
Films with Taken In Hand overtones or references
A lifetime of denial ends
Alternative therapy
A plea for help: I need a man!
The subjection of women
Listening isn't weak
I love obeying my husband
My experience of taking my wife in hand
Getting it right takes time
On being the servant-leader in my relationship
The unexpected benefits of surrendering control
A brief introduction to Taken In Hand
Alpha males and the women who love them
Not all men will get it unless you explain
How to tell him you want a Taken In Hand relationship
Do with me what you will
What would you do if your spouse said he or she no longer wants this kind of relationship?
Patience, integrity…and being a little sweet always helps
Do you keep a journal?
Introducing Kim.... “girl alpha seeks all man alpha”
The carrot or the stick?
Too feminine?
Stereotypes
Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?
My life, my choice
A good leader accepts that he is only human
Closing the gap
Is Taken In Hand a moral matter?
Why do some prefer a Taken In Hand relationship to a conventional relationship?
Barbie is the doll, Ken is just an accessory.
How is this different from other male-led relationships?
Power connectivity
What qualities does a man need to be a good leader?
How should a woman dress?
When your love doesn't want to get married
First there were the boys... then there was Bobby
Should the woman take the man's name on marriage?
Force majeure
Natural flow
Getting To "I Do", by Patricia Allen: a book review
Can you be in charge without turning into her mother?
Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spanking
Are you worth your weight in gold?
Taken In Hand has changed our marriage
FAQ (answers to frequently-asked questions)
Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?
Respect and responsibility
What women want
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: a book review
When is implicit consent enough?
Consent makes all the difference in the world
Could you be a slave, owned, property?
Being taken in hand was really rather super
Wedded bliss
Find your voice and speak
Taken in hand by tenderness
How do you relate to one another publicly?
The Virgin and the Gipsy, by D. H. Lawrence
BDSM . . . kink with some psychological payoff
From BDSM to Taken In Hand
Familiarity breeds contempt
Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?
A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leads
A woman must know that her man cares
He's in charge. . . but I do it my way
Wanting the impossible dream - a man in charge
Do the right thing - be the captain of your ship
Real life leadership or rules and rigidity?
Given a choice between two men ...
Learning to be more assertive can take time
Abusive men: Hedda Nussbaum's list of red flags
Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?
On being a man
Is he head of the household?
How we stopped fighting and became happier together
Taking it step-by-step making piecemeal changes
Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?
Different strokes for different folks
The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book review
Acts of love
Finding my way home
An alpha female bares her throat only to her mate
Full circle
Lessons from a Taken In Hand girl
Greetings from a Spanish Taken In Hand couple
Taken In Hand means different things to different people
My husband and I face the world as a team
Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silent
Giving up control is not easy
Greater humility, less defensiveness
Violence in the garden
Taken In Hand - intimacy and romance
A small but touching act of kindness
What is a Taken In Hand relationship? Here is one answer.
Consent, control, connection
Shall we dance?
In defence of books like Fascinating Womanhood
A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!
Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked?
We're not all submissive!
A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose against
It is working as advertised!
Have you found a proper balance?
Too much of a good thing?
Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?
How my husband makes me melt
Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?
Are you submissive to all men or to only one man?
The butterfly effect
Could this kind of relationship be for you?
What is the secret recipe?
Is this really consensual?
If I asked for the moon...
How often do you have sex?
What would you do if your wife damaged the car?
What it is that we do
Giving my best to my man who put his foot down
Attention to detail
Practical hints for men - handling a strong woman
In my room
Men taking responsibility
Enjoying our relationship
Working wives
Why is this desire so powerful?
Could micromanagement work for you, too?
How badly I want this; how difficult it is to ask for it
Switches do grow on trees
Practical hints for men - you are allowed to enjoy it!
Practical hints for men - times of stress
What if it doesn't come naturally?
Is your relationship abusive?
Keeping the lines of communication open
Do you need more attention in your relationship?
Being able to be open and honest about my feelings
A consensual, non-controlling journey
Linguistically submissive
My husband's calm control makes me feel submissive
Why did it take us 20 years?
I was drawn to his old-fashioned ways
Virtues of the lowly switch
Fear
Give the right impression?
An iron hand in a velvet glove
Communication, consent and connection
Women need to know when NOT to do as they're told!
The dance of consent
Is chastity overrated?
The importance of conquest
The submissive alpha female
What being taken in hand means to me
An etiquette in the relationship
Domestic discipline (DD)
Trust is what makes my relationship so special
What women need to know about men
Why is BDSM so popular?
Don't wait too long to tell her
Can physical chastisement cure bad habits?
Is it a mistake to spank when angry?
PUT women in their place
Trials and errors – appeasement for anger
And Adam knew his wife
BDSM rituals and rule-bound relationships
Self-realization – the catapult
Now I want my husband all the time
Some possible benefits of taking your wife in hand
My wife cherishes me
The soothing effect of vowing to obey
Relationship and health versus productivity
Wedding vows – I promised to “obey”
The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan: a book review
Has feminism gone too far?
A reality check for critics
My marriage is a safe haven
Love and fear
Using the word “love” in writing about relationships
Quietly taken in hand
Look for love
Mistakes made in forming relationships
How can a strong woman signal her submissiveness?
Have you captured her mind?
Beauty is skin deep; sexy is forever
Monogamy
Why would anyone want to be controlled by a man?
What works for us
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Ownership as bonding
He owns it all...
Taken In Hand is not a lifestyle
Embracing my inner adult
The erotic power of the unshackled man
Happy living in fear of a man?!
Which comes first? Dominance or submission?
Can two dominant individuals have a good relationship?
Force of will
Asserting dominance physically forcefully
Dominance and forcefulness, and violence
Our new beginning
Dominance, integrity and needing to feel superior
How my husband took my clothing choices in hand
Seduction of the independent female
What Taken In Hand is, and what it is not
Alpha male dominance
Taking her in hand is not a contact sport
In defence of brats everywhere!
Strength and ceding control
Brought to submission
What women don't want
Changing for myself
Human alpha, beta, and omega males: the reality
The resistant woman
A relationship of equals
Communication
Accommodating needs can't be done by the book
Women want men who are more dominant
Understanding
Craving protection, learning to trust
Why would a women want to be spanked?
Empowering dominance
Wanting a masterful man
Don't forget your whip
Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriage
Learning the ropes
Knights earn the name
The freedom to be an alpha male: the joy!
Three different experiences of rape
How Taken In Hand exorcised my inner demon
There is no knight in shining armour
Who says you have to be submissive?
Timeshare taming
The worm turns (a little late, but better late than never!)
Taken In Hand by an ardent feminist
The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance
Authority in a Taken In Hand relationship
Submission and security
Consensual rape as a gift of control
The alpha male and masculine power
Chemistry is indispensable
Actions speak louder than words
The hazards of self-sacrifice and impossible standards
Are you under misapprehensions about Taken In Hand?
To be taken
Introducing... Tess: “Once upon a time...”
Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doom
Taking her in hand when she won't ask for it
How can I be sure that she wants to be taken in hand?
Why Taken In Hand isn't actually unfair
Surrendering to the man I nearly destroyed
How I became submissive
An 1897 woman's “ideal of manhood”
The nature and effects of consensual non-consent
He who dares, wins
The F-word
What Taken In Hand has done for our marriage
Equality isn't all it's cracked up to be
Moving into a Taken In Hand relationship
The dynamics of our Taken In Hand relationship
Taken In Hand relationships are hot and close
Does being submissive mean not saying what you think?
From vague awareness to a beautiful relationship
When rape is a gift
The face, the mask, and the dream
The joy of the master-queen dynamic
Subjugation or submission?
Don't tell anyone I'm here!
The difference between dominant and domineering
The anchor of love
Sharing the secret of our success
Looking into the mirror of life
Never do without sex again
The paradox of the master and the queen
My deep dark secret
A breakdown on the road to intimacy
Why is real punishment spanking erotic?
Don't tell me to leave my baggage at the door
Is he one of the good guys... or not?
Offering an olive branch
It's not about blame, so forget ‘fairness’!
Change of heart
What I get out of it
Each relationship is a unique work in progress
Does it have to hurt to be Taken In Hand?
The coming battle
The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critique
Leadership, strength, emotional intimacy
About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawal
Ever-deepening total love
Do you think he doesn't have it in him?
What does the man get out of it? Many things!
What kind of site is this? D/s? TPE? CP? DD? ABCD?
Secretary: the film
The Eskimo analogy
Spanking as connection
What the woman gets out of it
The exquisite pleasure of childlikeness in a woman
Help! The one I love nowadays rarely wants sex!
Resolving an internal conflict
Happily married to a dominant man
A new journey
Out of control, insane, driven by our emotions? No way!
Journey into true submission
What's in it for the man? Freedom!
The paradox of the strong and submissive woman
The appeal of a very feminine woman
I don't want to be a servant or slave
She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!
Is there consent?
The healing power of taking her in hand
How I turned the fantasy into reality
Give new love a chance
A love letter
Safe
I want...
Making it explicit versus keeping it implicit
Do you have a commanding presence?
Why being taken in hand helps
How I met my husband, and how that impacted my life
Spanking is the last resort
What easy-to-say word gives every lover pleasure?
Dealing with a man who doesn't do as he's told
I want... to be possessed
The difference between dominant and controlling
No helpless hysterical heroines here!
How can you submit when you feel frustrated?
Why does it work?
Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp?
How it felt to be taken in hand for the very first time
What do you mean, you want to be taken in hand?!
Feeling the dragon's fire
I want it all, and I want it now!
How I feel before, during and after being spanked
Why you should not withhold spanking!
Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!
Each to his own
I fear I have awoken a sleeping dragon
Being taken in hand is hot!
Why you shouldn't mention the ‘M’ word
No more waiting!
Hands-on approach
Why a man might be reluctant and what to do about it
Liberated through submission
Surrendered in love
The changes show! What should I tell people?!
It's like this, beloved: I need to be spanked
Romantic rituals for the taken in hand
How we got past the year from hell
Blush and Gary, by Gary
First year trials
Whose job is it?
Obedience
Safewords
Throw out the rules!
Blanket consent
How Sleeping Beauty found her prince
The impossibility of installing a spine in a pansy
My perfect guy, and the marriage he has given me
What happens when he makes a mistake?
Obedience and autonomy
How to break it to a new man
In praise of Fascinating Womanhood
Letter to a potential partner
Why men start and why they stop
Is he who (or where) he says he is?
I'm so lucky to have found the right man
My fascinating journey
Cherishing the family: little things have big effects
The path
American Beauty meets The Surrendered Wife
The dual failures of men
The Taming of the Shrew
When I'm in overdrive...
Is this a victory?
Reaching out by offering yourself
Creating an unbreakable bond of love takes time
Ms. Damen [should be] taken in hand (I jest!)
The sweetest “Benevolent Dictatorship” ever
A need for control
Dominant to the last
Total obedience?
The night that changed our marriage for ever
Finding a good man
Quiet authority
White hot intensity and boundless joy
Don't go into your cave, get out your preferred implement!
Tradition, feminism, Victoria and Albert
To let go
Where are all the strong men?
Laying the groundwork for other possibilities
What you need to know about Taken In Hand
Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?
Is Taken In Hand about discipline?