Ownership as bonding

The idea of ownership may be troubling because it conjures up notions of indelicacies such as slavery (chattel-like property) or the Stockholm Syndrome (identifying with one's captor) as well as other forms of victimization.

In reality, ownership within the bounds of a monogamous relationship may be more wisely considered as an intense bonding in which two become one.

While I do not own my wife in any legal sense of the word, she knows that she belongs to me in an exclusive bonding. At the same time, there is no other woman in my life – and has not been for almost forty years.

Ask my wife if I own her and she might reply that I do. At the same time, she is quite aware that she possesses me as well.

Over the years, we have become something more than either of us could have been on our own.

Noone

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What a beautiful post

Wow, what a beautiful post.

I hadn't thought of these feelings in these words before, but I've experienced them. It's really lovely to hear them expressed as beautifully as you have expressed them.

Thanks Noone, this clarifies and gives perspective on some of your other posts that I've had some gut-feeling trouble with...

As ever, all the best.

Beautiful!

Q now owns me in every sense of the word in that loving bond that you describe.

And through this 'ownership' our relationship has reached new heights and are forever becoming more as a couple, than separately.

Isn't finding this place of joy and contentment a wonderful experience?

As a man I do have to say tha

As a man I do have to say that ownership is vital to the relationship bond. I want a relationship where I own her completely and where I am owned by her completely. There is something very sexy about being about to say "this is MINE and no other's".

While there are obviously some unhealthy variants of this, I think in a large way it provides an impetus for a man to protect, provide and empower what he feels is his. This in turn makes the woman feel protected, provided for and empowered.

So that in owning, he has the sense of belonging.

Nice!

Loved the post by Noone, and what Gandalf said too. "Protect, provide and empower what he feels is his." Where can I get me a Man like this?

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