A brief introduction to Taken In Hand

I think the Bible gives an ideal explanation of what a Taken In Hand marriage (or other relationship, for those who choose not to marry) should be. I'll try to paraphrase it in such a way that the religious tone is excluded, which for me is a bit difficult, but here it is:

Ephesians

The husband leads the marriage, and the wife is submissive and respectful to her husband.
A man loves his wife as his own body. He who loves his wife loves himself.
A man leaves his father and mother and unites with his wife, so they can become one.

I Corinthians

The husband shows respect and love toward his wife. The wife does likewise toward the husband.
The wife does not deny the husband her body. Likewise the husband does not deny the wife his body.
Neither spouse denies the other, except by mutual agreement for a limited time.

In short, the man leads, the woman follows. They both cheerfully and lovingly do what they can to satisfy each other's needs and desires. I think that encompasses nearly all of the variations of the Taken In Hand relationships.

KrosRogue

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An excellent introduction, KrosRogue

Thanks for this excellent introduction, KrosRogue.

Sweet!

What a sweet article! I think all of us are different, with different needs (as I have stated many times before on previous postings), but whether or not you are a Christian, a Taken in Hand relationship feels very natural for many of us.

I happen to be a very liberal, open-minded Christian (I also embrace some other philosophies not in the Bible). I love the scriptures that KrosRogue quoted. They are so loving and give wonderful guidance for a loving (not abusive!) relationship.

I look up to my wonderful husband and respect him so very much for being the strong man that he is. In return, he cherishes and protects me. I enjoy being under his guidance and leadership, which bring out my naturally submissive qualities.

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