Liberated through submission

Given my interest in the transforming power of consensual dominance and submission, you might not be surprised to learn that I read everything about this that I can get my hands on. When I heard about Liberated Through Submission, by P. Bunny Wilson, I ordered it immediately. It turned out to be a very short book which did not really say very much. Or perhaps it does but I was unable to get beyond the fact that the book takes very much a Biblical approach. However, there were a few good bits I thought I'd share.

One bit very close to my heart was about how traumatic housework is for many women. My comments are in square brackets.

She probably feels the task [i.e., housework] is extremely arduous and taxing. [Perhaps too arduous and taxing for a woman?] One thing is certain: too much pressure can have negative results and will place undue strain on the relationship. […]

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that just because she's a woman, she should know how to clean. [Hear, hear!] Develop ideas that will build her self-esteem and encourage her in that area. [C]onsider hiring a cleaning person on a weekly basis. [Only weekly?!] Whatever you do, your wife will appreciate your understanding… (p. 82)

Quite right. Learn from Ben's shining example! His wife is totally surrendered to him but he does all the housework. Sounds like heaven to me! (On the other hand, you might want to use the transforming power of your erotic connection to turn housework from a trauma into a turn-on. But more about that another time.)

This next bit, I include just because it made me laugh (but I'm laughing with him, not at him, so that's all right, isn't it?!

[A] man … tearfully explained the difficulties he was having with his wife. After the man went through a long list of faults, my pastor asked him, “What was she like when you married her?”

“Oh pastor,” he quickly replied, “she wasn't anything like she is today. She was so nice.”

My pastor responded, “Well, she became the way she is now under your leadership!” (p. 77)

Yes, if you thought this was a book aimed at helping women to submit to their husbands in accordance with the Biblical injunction to obey, you were wrong. Or not wholly right, anyway. Quite a lot of it seems to be aimed at husbands. If you are Christian, you might enjoy this book. If not, I would not personally recommend it, despite the fabulous title.

the boss

Taken In Hand Tour start | next

Have you seen the following articles?
Help! The one I love nowadays rarely wants sex!
The soothing effect of vowing to obey
And Adam knew his wife
How often do you have sex?
Do you have a commanding presence?
The freedom to be an alpha male: the joy!
In my room
Why would anyone want to be controlled by a man?
Is this really consensual?
Why is BDSM so popular?

2003 Nov 20 - 14:58 | login or register to post comments | latest article | previous article | next article |

Other Books

Have you read any of the other Christian books about marriage? Like Finding the Hero in Your Husband, What Makes a Man Feel Loved, etc? If so please post reviews.

by Helen on 2003 Nov 21 - 14:29 | login or register to post comments

House Work & Cleaning

OK, so the religous aspects may have a certain value..... Personally, though, I am more interested as to how the boss would plan to turn housework from "trauma to turn on" *smiles* Please tell us more..... :-)

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Nov 24 - 14:49 | login or register to post comments

Housework

In answer to the question above: all in good time, all in good time. You will just have to wait for the article. :-)

by the boss on 2003 Nov 24 - 22:23 | login or register to post comments

Interesting idea....

It was me who put the comment about "House work and cleaning" up - once again, I had forgotten to log in first!

Can't wait for the article, if only to see what title you give it -"The feather duster: the forgotten implement of correction"?

OK, so my sense of humour is a little "English" - no-one said EVERY post had to be serious *chuckles*

Thank you for a wonderful web site

Random

by Random on 2003 Nov 26 - 21:41 | login or register to post comments

the boss & Liberated Through Submission

the boss, in her review of the book, Liberated Through Submission, very kindly, refers to my wife's complete submission to me but also to the fact that I do all the housework.... Because my wife IS totally submitted she is also totally free of worries about the house, money,her car... absolutely everything is provided for her - out of love. 'What a wimp this guy must be...' the words resound.... All I can say, as I said in my very first posting, is... why not try it and you will be amazed at not only how fulfilling it is to take total care and possession of a totally feminine woman (who is very capable of looking after herself) but you will receive back your care for your woman tenfold, a hundredfold... the more we live like this the deeper our care and love for each other gets.... should that we had found this years ago!
As for the housekeeping, I enjoy it all except dusting (and most of the house-husbands I know, or men who will actually admit that they do the housework, seem to have an immense dislike of just one thing... dusting.)But my lovely wife has now accepted that though she promised to do the dusting herself she will now certainly be put OTK if she doesn't... this is not kinky OTK it is gentle 'punishment' to remind her that a promise is just that.
I think, for the UK members at least, you will find that men doing the housework is far commoner than the regular 'husband stereotype' would have us believe:- of the man who wouldn't be seen dead in the kitchen/ doing the cleaning/shopping etc.
Has this transformation 'cissified' me... er, um, no, not in the way that the cissifying camp might have you believe!!.. not if the very radiant and satisfied look on my wife's face at least once most weekdays and more at holidays and weekends is anything to go by... and teenagers we ain't.
So, you men out there, just hang up your pre-conceptions, admit that you do actually love your woman to pieces and do want her to be truly and totally submitted to you... mostly I think you'll find that that is exactly what she's been hoping for for a mighty long time (probably far longer than you'd ever have suspected!... just one very significant pointer... think who has in fact really been making the major decisions for, maybe, years... it may well be you, Mr Ever Hopeful married to Mrs OhmyGodIwishhewouldgetonwithit Hopeful )... even if your wife is a feminist, a liberated woman, a highly successful professional(just like my wife) she will delight in not having ALWAYS to be all these things... she can, in her private world, be a really loved woman who has totally surrendered to the man SHE chose to spend for EVER with... to the end of time.

by ben on 2003 Nov 27 - 15:32 | login or register to post comments

the boss & Liberated thro submission

Boy! Is this guy Ben nuts or is he nuts? No red-blooded man is going to do the housework like this even if he does get 'rewarded' by his 'lovely feminist wife' with hotties every ten minutes, as he implies. A real man doesn't have to 'wimp' and 'cissy', his words; a real guy gets out there and shows who is the boss. He doesn't play soft-footsie like this one!

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Nov 27 - 15:53 | login or register to post comments

the boss and Liberated Through Submission

someone, whomsoever he is (if is a he),

sounds as though he really does need to try what I have suggested.. you don't need to 'show who is the boss'... you just need to realise that you already ARE and didn't know it!.. and, as I have said, your love and care will be returned magnified many times over by your woman.

by ben on 2003 Nov 27 - 16:09 | login or register to post comments

Ben, men, and a fragile sense of masculinity

Ben doesn't sound like a sissy to me, he sounds like a total dream. And as I have just commented on another thread, I am particularly impressed by couples who, instead of enacting a stereotype, create their own ways of doing things, that suit them as the individuals they are.

Secondly, to me, a dominant man who does not have a problem with doing housework is one who is secure in his masculinity, i.e., strong, not weak, and certainly not a sissy. It is those who appear to have such an aversion to doing so-called womanly tasks like housework, that make me wonder. Just how fragile is his manhood if it is threatened by a spot of cleaning? Oops, sorry, chaps! Just my little joke. 8-)

by the boss on 2003 Nov 28 - 03:18 | login or register to post comments

An aversion to housework? Oh yes

..... Though in my case it it more to do with sheer laziness than because I think it is "sissy". At the moment, I live by myself, which means I *have* to do the housework (though I do also employ a cleaner ;-)),

else it does not get done. I do not enjoy it, and avoid it till it needs to be done, but I do not think it sissy....

To me, there is no right or wrong label that can be assigned to housework, as such. It needs to be done, and if one partner wants to do it, I am not about to tell them they are wrong. The underlying reason for why it is done is, however, critical. If a man is dominated by his partner, such that she forces him to do the house work (mistress/slave relationship),

then that does not appeal to me in the slightest. If (as Ben suggest above) this is simply part of the role that he takes in their relationship, part of the protection aspect, where he (to a certain extent) protects her from having to do work she does not like, then more power to him. I confess, hating housework as I do, I do not think that if I get a partner to stay with me at my house, that I would be doing the same as him - sharing (urrrgh),

possibly, but never more than that!

Random

by Random on 2003 Nov 28 - 08:09 | login or register to post comments

Total Submission

It sounds like you have something like what we have, Ben. My wife is totally submitted to me. She does most of the household chores as I go out to work, but she loves keeping house for me--says it makes her feel like a real woman. LOL!

by mrtom on 2003 Nov 30 - 17:00 | login or register to post comments

We share and yes it can be sexy!

Mr Mouse and I divide the household chores into likes and dislikes and strengths and talents. For e.g. he is asthmatic so it is best for him not to dust. Vacuuming seems to hurt my back so he does it and so on.

I would like to add I saw my Dad taking his share of the chores while I was growing up. I was born in 1967, I don’t believe the term “new man” was heard of then.

As for making chores sexy, it can depend on what the cleaner is wearing! I tend to do chores naked for fear of ruining my clothes with spilt bleach, etc (has happened in the past). We are currently talking of buying a sexy maid’s outfit for me to do this in as I have always wanted one and Mr Mouse seems to like the idea well enough!

by Mousling on 2004 Jun 4 - 21:59 | login or register to post comments

Not about the dusting....

The strongest of dominant men can maintain the dynamic whilst doing things like cooking for you... or so I have found. It is nothing to do with who does what but who's in charge and who's deciding things.

I have someone who cleans and does the washing every morning and I can't really see that changing even if I remarry. When I was married we both did equal amounts of things at home as we both worked full time. That is common in the UK and only fair and has nothing much to do with who is taken in hand by whom. I'm very submissive but that doesn't stop me wanting fairness of effort. Anyway scrubbing floors damages my nails....

by Hera on 2006 Apr 5 - 16:01 | login or register to post comments

Comment viewing options

Select your preferred way to display the comments and click "Save settings" to activate your changes.