KrosRogue's account of the demise of a recent relationship and what lesson he has drawn from this experience.

To read this charming article about Sam's discovery of what it means to know a woman, hit the read article link now!

Noone sounds a gentle note of caution in regard to the formalism of BDSM rituals and the laundry lists of rules and consequences that some DD people seem to favour.

To read this fascinating account of how KrosRogue came to realise that he wants to be in control, hit the read article link now!

Before Louise's husband took control in their relationship, she would make herself available to him even when she did not feel in the mood. Now, she never doesn't want him.

When Tevemer's husband took control in their relationship, Tevemer found that she wanted to please him in a way that she never had before.

What does it really mean to cherish a man? Stephen evidently feels very cherished by his wife.

Almost four decades ago, Noone's wife shocked her peers by promising to obey. Some of her friends probably thought her out of her mind, but for her, this vow brought a deep sense of peace.

Sometimes it is better to concentrate on your relationship and your health instead of being ‘productive’ in other ways. Charlotte has found that it is easier to do this when her husband insists on it. Luckily, her husband is happy to oblige.

When she married 30 years ago, Kat vowed to obey, but she did not take that seriously. Recently she decided to embrace the idea of obedience.

Read this review of The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box.

Let's all agree that we don't want to go back to a time when women had fewer legal rights than men, but has feminism gone too far, and what has its effect been on intimate male-led relationships?

Is it true that a good man would not get rough with a woman who likes that? Or that women who want to be dominated are misguided and naïve and will end up getting abused? Or that they should settle for a bit of spanking, DD, or BDSM instead?

Bramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights.

In this fabulous article, DeeMarie argues that while love and fear might be incompatible emotions for some people, for others those two things are perfectly compatible.

Noone explains that to avoid praising love is not to avoid love.

Not all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge.

Blush gently suggests that if you are single and looking, the most important quality to look for is not dominance but love.

Noone on the subject of the mistakes people make when forming or trying to form intimate relationships.

Bel wonders how, as strong, capable women whom others perceive as being dominant, she can signal the fact that she is a submissive woman in search of a dominant man.

This short but sweet piece by Blush is about how Gary found the key to bringing her dead responses back to life.

To me, this warm and optimistic piece is about the erotic and rational power of the strong, free and autonomous mind, and the joy and pride in the associated sexuality (whatever one's choices in that respect).

Is monogamy a prison, hell on earth, or sheer heaven?

If you can't understand why any woman would enjoy being controlled by her man, or you suspect that such a woman must be weak, misguided or crazy, you have to read this article!

Race and GT have been married for thirty years. A year ago, they found the Taken In Hand web site. Hit the read article now!

KrosRogue is cross! And for an interesting reason that will warm the hearts of many readers. Every woman who thinks herself unattractive should read this piece immediately, and take note. In fact, everyone should read it!

In this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership.

How do you feel about the idea of in some sense being owned by a man? Some bristle against the idea; others – like Blush – like it.

How nice it would be (for me, anyway!) if Taken In Hand were so much the norm that no one ever used that frightful word “lifestyle” to describe it, and explanations were unnecessary, and male authority was really in the genes, as Noone cheeringly contends…. Oh well, I can dream…

After struggling with painful childhood wounds for many years, this writer found a way to put her inner child to bed and embrace her inner adult.

Separating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?!

If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now!

Which do you think should come first? The control by the man – as in bringing the woman to submission – or the woman's submission? As with everything else, it probably depends on the individuals concerned.

Can two naturally dominant individuals have a good relationship, as I have argued, or not? This very interesting piece addresses the issue from a slightly different perspective.

Many readers find the idea of control through sheer physical force exciting, but in this piece, Louise points out that it is the psychological control that her husband has over her (with his authoritative manner) that really excites her. (Note to Taken In Hand writers and potential writers: I'd like to put up more articles exploring the psychology of control (whether expressed physically forcefully or otherwise) should anyone feel like submitting an article or three.)

Many women have little or no interest in being spanked but would enjoy being overpowered physically by a man. Who hasn't enjoyed rough-and-tumble ‘wrestling’, pillow-fighting, or tickling with a man who is much stronger?! So for those who are interested, here are some imaginitive physically forceful ways of exerting control.

In this fascinating piece, DeeMarie considers different definitions of the word “violence”, some appropriate, others entirely inappropriate in the context of Taken In Hand.

A reader's account of the new hope he has for his marriage, now that his wife seems to have decided that she wants him to take control.

More thoughts about dominant men and the mistake some insecure men make in thinking that being dominant means being right, superior, better than women.

An account of a very nice Taken In Hand moment in which Louise's husband gently took her choice of clothing in hand without making her want to punch him in the face or file for divorce.