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A high-dominance woman taken in handTechiechic used to disdain women who prefer to liver under the control of a man – and then she realised that she herself is such a woman. What should the "Taken in Hand" book include?Davidaze seeks your opinions. Do speak up, everyone! A readers' forum post by Davidaze on 2007 May 13 - 18:49 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
The power of the feminine "please"Please please please could I persuade you to write more articles for Taken In Hand, CarlF? :-) Exercise authoritySometimes the relationship needs a spanking, in which case it might be a mistake to wait for a ‘good reason’, as CarlF so rightly says. Taken out of my anguishMany readers will identify with Dynomite's charming article. Forget femininity!Louise doesn't think much of people acting like idiots. Work - don't be afraid of that four letter word!Gitane on the joy of working on a relationship. I don't want to be submissive!Like many women on this site who want to be actively controlled by their man, Sully finds the idea of ‘just submitting’ (to what, exactly, if the man is not exerting control?!) decidedly unappealing. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. Man of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Aubrey Andelin's Man of Steel and Velvet or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Setting the record straight about punishment spankingLouise concisely articulates how punishment spanking works for her and her husband and other Taken In Hand couples whose relationships have this feature. Are your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?Don't waste your life looking for something you already have, if only you could see it. Why does physically taking your wife in hand work?Some ideas about why a man taking his wife in hand works. See also this article: Why you should not withhold spanking!. The ways we do thingsWhat are some of the ways you are exploring in your own Taken In Hand relationship? A dominant man brainwashed into submissionJust as some women grow up with the idea that the desire to live under the control of a man is unacceptable and needs to be overcome, some men also grow up with the idea that the desire to be in control in a relationship is unacceptable and needs to be overcome. This website aims to promote real choice, by letting it be known that there are thousands and thousands and thousands of happy, stable, well-adjusted Taken In Hand couples out there. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. Is the idea of fairness causing trouble in your relationship?You won't want to miss this very important article by Ted. Fascinating Womanhood and the ideal womanKelleigh on how Helen Andelin's book, Fascinating Womanhood, changed her life. Laura Schlessinger vs Helen Andelin on how to treat your husbandLouise compares one book to the other. Fascinating Womanhood and meUnlike many Taken In Hand women, Louise is not impressed. Taken In Hand through chronic illnessGlmaresh on how the dynamics of her taken in hand relationship has preserved and strengthened her marriage through her husband's multiple sclerosis. Why my wife needs to be spankedAdam explains why he thinks his wife needs to be spanked. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. Lessons from my marriage for wives wanting their husband to take them in handCharlene has some advice for women wanting their husband to take them in hand. An expression of his authorityCori appreciates her man firmly exerting his authority over her. This man's authority just ISThis writer used to think she wanted an equal relationship... How Taken In Hand makes the mundane eroticTaken In Hand dynamics are very powerful, as this writer indicates. Living the fantasy 24/7Taking your wife in hand does not mean what some husbands fear it might mean, as Louise explains. The King of the Dark Chamber, by Rabindranath Tagore: a book reviewRead this review of The King of the Dark Chamber, a play written by Rabindranath Tagore, or add your own review by clicking here. His word is finalSharon (sarahdinah) believes in accepting her husband's authority unless he actually loses his mind. It's not because he's infallibleIn Taken In Hand relationships in which there is corporal punishment, it is all one way: husband spanking wife. People often ask if this means we think the man is infallible or the woman inferior. In her inimitable way, Louise sets the record straight. The passion of the tangoThe tango, as it should be danced. Imagining my marriage as one long road-tripWanna's husband is the driver, but not a slave driver. Is taking his wife in hand self-sacrificing for the man?Is taking his wife in hand self-sacrificing for the man? No. Crossing a hurdleSmitten on how she and her husband got over a little hurdle. A happy end to marital deadlockIf your marriage is charactised by cold silences and angry fights or a lot of unhappiness, is there any way Taken In Hand might save it? Alpha Husband thinks Taken In Hand can indeed solve the problem. I think it is possible, but not unless both spouses make the effort to turn towards each other. It can't be all on the man. The woman needs to make an effort too. How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?This is an FAQ question: How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship? Changing for him - pleasing for meHair taken in hand. |