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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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A man released from his pseudo-beta tormentThis is a fascinating account of Silverback's journey to the discovery of his real nature, via society-induced pseudo-beta behaviour, dark fantasies and guilt. Thy Rod and Staff, by Edward Anthony: a book reviewLouise reviews this book. Missing my husband’s controlLike many women, Forty-something wife misses her husband's control when it is absent, for example, when they are visiting family over the holiday season. What might a couple do to avoid any potential disconnection in such circumstances? Protective menNina argues that a Taken In Hand man (or rather, one who takes his wife in hand!) protects his wife. Mr Darcy, Mr Knightley and the Taken In Hand idealEdward Anthony on Jane Austen's characters and Taken In Hand. The making of a dominant manIn this charming piece, Carl points out that alpha males may be born, but they can also make themselves. What are my rights as a Taken In Hand woman?Don't mistake being in a Taken In Hand relationship for giving up your right not to be badly treated. As Dragon explains, when a man accepts the power to control you he also accepts the responsibility to protect and care for you. Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?That's what you think. But it might be that you are inadvertently undermining him because you cannot see the man he is. You may think this is definitely not the case, but it is worth taking steps to make sure that it is not you who are the barrier to change. Pornography prevents and corrodes relationshipsJohn argues that using pornography can destroy or even prevent the development of an intensely connected, passionate relationship. It's all my parents' fault!Yes, this time it's not my grandparents, it's my parents! Not a lower-case girlWhy Coryman's girl doesn't call him him sir, eat out of a dog bowl, wear a collar or write her name in lower-case. How our relationship has changedSometimes it is difficult to put the changes into words because many of them are quite subtle. Who is the sexiest woman in the world?“My wife!”, says Sam – and other Taken In Hand husbands. A difficult wifeNext time I am appalled by overbearing behaviour, I'll think of this piece and try extra hard to be understanding and kind. Whether the person has such a story as the one Henry mentions here or not, it might help. Fear of domination... and finally overcoming it. A beginners' guide to spankingWhat beginners might want to know about taking a woman in hand by spanking her. When love transcends a weight issueKat on her ‘unconditional love’ for her husband. The NOW HabitWhat does a book on procrastination have to do with Taken In Hand relationships? Read Anna Grace's article to find out! What is the alpha male's secret?Is it all in the voice? Flying by the seat of your pantsLove is more visceral than cerebral. It is more flying by the seat of one's pants than filing a flight plan. My full and complete surrenderWhen a man is firm with her, Laura melts like butter. Si vis pacem, para bellumIf you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? Saying things for effectWhen a man says he doesn't care what the woman he loves wants, is he serious, or is he saying it for effect? This piece explains why you are less likely to hear so many statements said for effect in a Taken In Hand marriage than in some other kinds of relationships. (And no, this is not to say that Taken In Hand is better, merely to point out a difference!) How do you maintain control in little ways?Control need not necessarily involve violence or anything very dramatic. The power of a woman who submits to her manDo not make the mistake of thinking that a woman in a Taken In Hand relationship is not powerful. She is very powerful, as Mike explains. Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?How in the world can you create a male-controlled relationship if you meet and get to know each other as equals? A deep and satisfying marriageKat and her husband made a vow to forsake all others until death do them part, and they have a deep and satisfying relationship in which their love continues to grow. How we have stayed happily married for over 30 yearsLife is never perfect, but marriage is what you make it, and Kat and her husband evidently know what is important. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! Who wants a slave?Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’? If you want to use an article from this site......do the right thing and ask permission. If you have used material from this site elsewhere, or if you want to, hit the read article link now. Take her in hand without lifting a fingerForty-something wife gives an example of how Taken In Hand has worked to improve her marriage. How can I be sure he's monogamous?Or shouldn't that be: how can I be sure he's not promiscuous? A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the coupleBlush on the relationship between Gary's kindness and magnanimity to her and her kindness and magnanimity to others. What causes contrition and crying?A touching story by Louise. An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... We should consider ourselves so luckyThis beautiful piece by Lucy describes her quintessentially Taken In Hand relationship and the wonderful man who loves her. Essential reading! |