Why do some women want to be taken in hand?

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Why do some women want to be taken in hand?

2003 Sep 22 - 22:56 | login or register to post comments | latest article | previous article | next article |

Many reasons why.

It has dawned on me lately that a Taken In Hand relationships is a multifaceted ever-growing living thing. The reasons why I chose to be in a Taken In Hand relationship are many. When I state why I want a Taken In Hand relationship, I am always countered with someone else's reason. Then I often think, well I did it for that reason also. No one reason is more important than any other. They all help keep me on the path that I have chosen. I usually find one reason effective in one discussion and pull out another to address another discussion. The thought crossed my mine recently, it would be interesting to try to assemble a list of all the different reasons I have had over the past eleven years. The fact that some of my reasons in the past seem be the opposites of some of my reasons now is my point in wanting to make this list.

In no particular order:

Tradition.
Religion.
Morality.
Positive example.
Negative example.
Not wanting to be alone.
Wanting to be with a confident man.
Needing to know my place.
Knowing my place and not needing to be told.
Needing to know my role.
Knowing my role, but needing him to define it.
Needing to know I am loved.
Needing to know I am taken care of.
Because I can take care of myself.
Because I am capable of taking care of others.
In order to take care of him.
Because I like to make myself look good to others.
Because I should not care what others think.
Wanting him to regain his confidence.
To build up his confidence.
To respect his role.
To give him respect as a person.
To be respected.
To be understood.
To be listened to.
To be reminded that I need to listen to him.
To regain my trust in him.
To have him resume responsibility.
To have him trust me.
To have him give me more responsibility.
To seek forgiveness.
To heal the past.
To spice things up.
Because of lost faith.
Because of lost religion.
Because of tradition (again).
Because of values.
Out of respect.
Out of love.
To improve our lives.
To improve our relationship.
To improve our sex lives.
To improve communication.
To improve commitment.
To learn to keep quit.
Because relationship is important.
Because communication is the most important part.
Because love is the most important part.
Because commitment is the most important part.
Because sex is the most important part, for sure.
Because all of these thing make sex better.
Because all of these thing make a relationship better.
Because I want it.
Because he wants it.
Because we want it.
Because it makes me feel taken care of.
Because it makes him feel taken care of.
Because it makes us feel close.
Because it makes us feel loved.
Because it is who we are.

Why? Because I have given it a try and know other ways do not seems to work for us. When we fall out of this dynamic, we fall apart. We always seem to come back to him being the HOH and that is what works best for us.

PS. I know I repeated myself in a couple of places, but that too is part of my point. Sometimes our feelings fall in one direction or the other and then return to that place again. If you can think of any reason that I did not put in my list. Please, Please add.

by Good Girl on 2007 Jul 25 - 19:05 | login or register to post comments

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