What if she is not interested in being taken in hand?

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What if she isn't interested in being taken in hand?

If you have just met the person, and she is not interested, you might be best advised to find someone who is, because if this is something you really want, you may find that you are incompatible with someone who does not share that desire.

If you are already married, then you need either to get divorced and find someone who is – which may be surprisingly difficult and unpleasant – or forget about Taken In Hand and focus on the good things you have with your wife apart from that.

However, many are understandably initially negative about the idea until they see that it is not what they had imagined it is, so don't give up hope prematurely. Perhaps you can find a form of Taken In Hand that your wife would find delightful – there are so many possibilities. Consider your wife as an individual with her own preferences and see if you can do more to fulfil her wishes using Taken In Hand in some way if possible, or any way if not.

If you recommit to your marriage and try to make it good for both of you, you never know what good things may result from those efforts. When you go out of your way to give your wife pleasure and make her life more enjoyable, you may well find that she will surprise you. If you are thinking of getting divorced, before you do that, read Michele Weiner Davis's The Divorce Remedy.

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