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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. Taken In Hand - the bare essenceCharlene's post is an excellent concise introduction to Taken In Hand. It takes two to tangoDi on Taken In Hand and the tango. What control means to meTechiechic talks about what control means to her. Being yourselfBlush offers some words of advice for those looking for a Taken In Hand relationship Egalitarian dating vs accepting gifts graciouslyThe Empress doesn't like nickel and dime people. How my husband set me freeDon't miss this beautiful piece by Peach. The man who doesn't give a stuff about labelsMarie thought she wanted an alpha male, until she met a man confident enough to be gentle and protective. Is Taken In Hand bad for women who were abused in childhood?No. An established Taken In Hand relationship may even be healing for some women with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. Such women do need to take exceptional care, when trying to find someone with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, to avoid ending up with an antisocial, narcissistic, abusive man, as such men are likely to prey on vulnerable women who want to be controlled by a man. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? How my dress has changedLucy Ellis now enjoys dressing to please her man. Strap-on Epiphany, by Virginia Vitzthum: a commentDeeMarie is on the case. This place in my life feels rightJuggling work and home can sometimes be challenging, but Kat and her husband have found a way that feels right to Kat. Dominance through sustained eye contactIt's all in a glance. Getting your rocks offA brilliant article by VelvetHammer. It's not really natural for either of usSometimes it is positively unhelpful to think in terms of natural this or natural that, especially when we are talking about couples switching to a Taken In Hand relationship. People are not immutable entities, they can and do learn and change. They can grow together, as Lucy and her husband seem to be doing. Don't frighten the horsesA post by new writer, Velvet Hammer. A marriage of understanding, passion and pregnancyOne of the wonderful things about a Taken In Hand marriage is that the control dynamics make it possible – in some cases at least – for man and wife to be more excited by one another during pregnancy instead of less. Can you tell a submissive woman?Don't miss this fun piece by Carl. Where these men come from...Where do the wonderful men who are in Taken In Hand relationships come from? Pleasing your man makes you feel more lovey and lustyIt may be out of fashion but many women positively enjoy making their husband's life more pleasant. We were virgins when we marriedIt can be fun to learn together. How I discovered what I needWhen you introduce the idea of Taken In Hand to the person you love, he or she might not immediately react well to the idea, but people often start liking the idea later, as in this case. Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd: a book reviewRead Louise's review of it?Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Two different women...What's wrong with monogamy? When did self-control and commitment become a bad thing? She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. Nostalgic? Not a bit!It’s sometimes suggested, not only by our critics but also by avid Taken in Hand fanatics, that what we’re about is a return to the 1950s. But as Carl argues, our ideas aren't located anywhere near the 1950s: they're very 21st century indeed. A smile manI was once struck by the way an elderly woman's face lit up and became beautiful when she smiled. (And no, she did not have the gleeming white teeth of an American TV presenter!) Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. Back in the swing of thingsIt had been two months since Kat was last physically taken in hand... Superficially non-consensual but deeply consensualThere are couples who eschew consensual non-consent, but many have a strong preference to be in a relationship in which force is sometimes used. Mr Fondman's wife is such a person, as am I. For my own explanation of the idea of consensual non-consent, see this series. Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?If you are a man wanting to find a woman with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, you won't want to miss this article by Jeff! A few thoughts on cryingWhile some women never cry when given a thrashing, and never want to, others long for the release of tension that a good cry represents, yet can't cry. If you are such a woman, or if you are a man whose wife can't cry, this article might help. Under new management... and loving it! Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. How to read this siteWorried by something you have read on this site? Here is how to interpret what you read here. Things can changeIndividuals sometimes force themselves to change to please their spouse, and that can be problematic. But some changes are genuine, and part of the process of growing closer and creating a good relationship. How Taken in Hand has transformed my wifeJerome once questioned whether he had married the right woman. Then his wife found Taken In Hand, and everything changed for the better. So grateful - Taken In Hand has set us freeSian thought she was alone with her secret desire, until she found this site. Spanking in angerNot every man loses control when angry, and not every woman is terrified by being spanked in anger. For some couples in some situations, it is a good idea, as Louise explains. |