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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Saved by the spankThis couple were angry with each other and about to split up, when the husband took the action that saved their marriage. Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a reviewLouise reports on this interesting little book from 1961. I never learnLouise says she should know better than to make rash statements on this site, because fate has a way of catching her out. Good communicationSmitten's husband consistently communicates about who he is, and this makes her feel safe. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. To promise or not to promise?If you make a promise no human being could deliver, says Louise, you may live to regret it. Needing my wifeSam has his wife Missy very much in hand, and she has him very much in heart. Loving, supportive and kind controlA man can feel the need to be in control without feeling any inclination for that control to be oppressive or in any way unpleasant for the woman he loves. Taking herMissy is sexually available to Sam all the time, and he explains how that works so well for them. A man in charge needs to be firm and steadyStephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. Men demanding sexThere is demanding, and there is demanding, as Otter so rightly says. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?If you have a dog cage in your bedroom (but you don't own a dog), can your relationship be a Taken In Hand one? Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. Being with a stronger man allows a strong woman to relaxNot to live with the fear that one might inadvertently overpower the man one loves is deeply relaxing, as Milly says. Attracting girls as a nice guy with a capacity for violenceIt is often said that a nice guy doesn't get the girl, but HoleInTheSoul's conclusions seem closer to the truth. Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers: a book reviewLouise C on this fascinating book. Blossoming in his armsSmitten is truly smitten! I blame the knee-jerkersMercuria sets the record straight. Passing it onMercuria (Sara) on the first love of her evidently very smart fifteen-year-old daughter. Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. This manThis piece expresses the excitement many women feel when they are in a relationship with a man who wears the trousers. From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. Bonded by rapeWhy does this disturbing idea have such a hold over so many women? And is it only women, or does it stir the odd man here and there, too? When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. Men serve and lead, women receive and obeyUnder His Wing explains that to obey is not the same thing as serving. The Future of Men, by Marian Salzman, Ira Matathia and Ann O'Reilly: a book reviewThe male as marketing fantasy. What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. Enjoying consensual sexual aggressionOn the joy of consensual ravishment in a Taken In Hand relationship. Three female film characters I admireWhat female characters in films are of interest from a Taken In Hand perspective, and why? My friend, my lover, my rockThis is how one reader describes her husband. How do you describe yours? Our type of Taken In Hand marriageDespite our similarities, we are all individuals with individual responses. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Reassurance for those new to all thisAs I have said a number of times and Tess emphasises here, people often have unrealisic expectations when they are new to Taken In Hand, and they sometimes make the mistake of thinking that Taken In Hand is a recipe for relationships. It isn't. My first Taken in Hand experienceUnlike the stereotypical woman, this writer loves cars. But... Growing upAs a child, Ian always knew he was different. Who cares what others think?Sometimes you have to do what feels right and good to you, even if the neighbours disapprove. |