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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. 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Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
This site no more?Unless we can find a new host for this site, it will cease to exist soon. Is there anyone out there who can help? For more information, click the 'read article' link. UPDATE: See my comment containing information about bandwidth, disk space, etc. Maybe Mama was wrong...Deny yourself that which you want? A readers' forum post by his_princess on 2007 Sep 10 - 02:41 | 19 comments | read article | permanent link
Are you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. Could he be a Taken in Hand man?Amy P wonders whether the man she has just started dating could potentially be a man able and willing to take her in hand. Three steps forward, one step backwardsMany husbands need time to check that they are not harming their beloved wife as the Taken In Hand relationship develops. A readers' forum post by Augustina on 2007 Aug 26 - 08:04 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Face to faceWhat would it be like to actually talk to someone who shares your interest in Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by Louise C on 2007 Aug 25 - 20:00 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
How do I broach the subject of Taken In Hand?How do I broach the subject of Taken In Hand? The Committed MarriageA book to read many times. A readers' forum post by CajunBaby on 2007 Aug 17 - 22:21 | 8 comments | read article | permanent link
Is it time to just give up on this relationship?This reader really needs some advice. Can being monitored and punished be used to help me lose weight?This reader's husband is clearly very supportive of her desire to lose weight, and I hope it works for her. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2007 Aug 5 - 15:20 | 27 comments | read article | permanent link
Does it sound as though we're on the right track?Tilly has been making changes. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2007 Aug 2 - 08:01 | 18 comments | read article | permanent link
Noticing and noting the positiveSully's example is a nice reminder to us all to take the trouble to express appreciation when something good happens, rather than focusing on negatives. I stand at the gates (a man lost in how to begin)Angelus and his fiancee are getting married next year and can't wait! A readers' forum post by Angelus on 2007 Jul 27 - 16:14 | 22 comments | read article | permanent link
DD relationships - the view of a mental health professionalAlthough we seem to have been attracting the attention of a number of individuals incensed by the fact that there are several doctors, psychologists, social workers and other mental health clinicians writing for this site, here is yet another person in the field who has something sensible to say about the kinds of relationships discussed here. If I give him unrestricted access to me sexually will he still want me?Some people do unfortunately want that which they can't have, or that which is in short supply, and do not want that which they do have, or that which is in plentiful supply, so this question is not unreasonable. A readers' forum post by LittleLadyJade on 2007 Jul 19 - 09:47 | 32 comments | read article | permanent link
Is there a fine line between taking charge and being domineering?This reader fears that it may be difficult to take charge without becoming domineering. And if he takes charge, can he also promote his wife's individual growth as a person, or will he inadvertently prevent it. It is certainly true that some men are incapable of taking charge without being domineering, but that is certainly not an inherent feature of a Taken In Hand relationship, as I hope other readers will agree. A readers' forum post by smartone on 2007 Jul 11 - 15:55 | 13 comments | read article | permanent link
Can a Taken In Hand relationship be intellectually enlightening for the man?This reader is worried that Taken In Hand might mean that the wife is a docile yes-woman, and that that might make for a boring, intellectually unelightening relationship in which the man can't grow. I hope everyone will reassure the reader that that is absolutely not the case. A readers' forum post by smartone on 2007 Jul 11 - 15:20 | 13 comments | read article | permanent link
How a strong women can show she wants a take-charge manThis is such a common problem for women who want a Taken In Hand relationship. A readers' forum post by littleblossom7 on 2007 Jul 10 - 12:03 | 26 comments | read article | permanent link
Damsel in EustressThis couple clearly have a lot of fun together. A readers' forum post by Pink Cheeks on 2007 Jul 6 - 21:27 | 9 comments | read article | permanent link
A mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Softly taken in handSmitten is still smitten. A year of new managementJane M's account of her Taken In Hand journey in the last year. Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasureLouise muses on the peculiar phenomenon of women choosing to obey their husbands, and being thrilled by their husband's control. When the heart finally comes homeDiscovering a safe place. Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wiselyM.D. on when not to forcibly take your wife, even if you have her consent to take her whenever you want. Saying soSmitten no longer wants to resist. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. Journaling: another way to talkDandelion has an interesting take on journaling. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! What's in a name?The power of mere words. What a man gets from Taken in HandNathaniel answers a frequently-asked question. "No" means "take me"The aim of "No means no!" is to give men a simple way to avoid actually raping a woman. The problem is that no does not always mean no, and the denial of that reality makes it more likely that men will make mistakes than if that reality were acknowledged. A childhood memoryDon't miss Princess4rev's charming account of a childhood memory jogged by reading this site. How to find out if a man wants a Taken in Hand relationshipHow can women tell if a man might be open to a Taken In Hand relationship? Don't be an "if only" personIf you are hoping to find someone with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, don't miss this advice from Louise. Sleeping positions, rituals and controlAnother charming piece by CarlF. Why is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Why the "Wow!"?When couples discover Taken In Hand and their relationship starts to evolve in this direction, they typically describe it as mind-blowingly thrilling. They tend to be astonished by how right it feels, even in their first faltering experimental steps. Why do so many couples experience this “Wow!”? Here is one person's answer. What is your answer? Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. |