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The Virgin and the Gipsy, by D. H. Lawrence

How Sleeping Beauty found her prince

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The dance of consent

Equality isn't all it's cracked up to be

Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...

Surrendered in love

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The healing power of taking her in hand

When rape is a gift

Give new love a chance

On being the servant-leader in my relationship

The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan: a book review

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Quietly taken in hand

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Ideas for articles

Choose one of the following titles and without using any of the words: submit, submitted, submitting, submissive and submission (or any derivatives thereof) create and submit an article suitable for publication on Taken In Hand.

Giving examples where appropriate, discuss the significance and relative importance to a woman of the qualities of decisiveness and circumspection in partner or prospective partner.

Giving examples where appropriate, discuss the significance and relative importance to a man of the qualities of compliance and respectfulness in his partner or prospective partner.

It is impossible for a woman to be simultaneously sexually aggressive and sexually subordinate; discuss.

Identify five qualities of character that make a man suitable for a “Taken In Hand” relationship and contrast them with five qualities that would make a man unsuitable for a “Taken In Hand” relationship.

Using examples from real life to illustrate your discussion, and with particular reference to sexual violence within the context of a “Taken In Hand” style of relationship, discuss whether and why a person's emotions follow their actions or a person's actions follow their emotions.
(Please do not answer this question if you do not understand what is meant by a “Taken In Hand style of relationship”.)

With reference to a “Taken In Hand” relationship (or some particular aspect of one), describe three modes of leadership and their relevance, and identify the roles of those involved.

Using examples from real life to support your argument, discuss the proposal that the qualities of Assertiveness, Bravery, Control and Dominance form the initial components in the formation of a successful “Taken In Hand” relationship.

If you like the idea of this challenge, please keep the following in mind:

There are no correct or incorrect answers.

Points will be awarded for precise use of terminology, constructive content, humour, originality and any evidence that a dictionary or thesaurus has been consulted.  [hint, http://www.reference.com/]

Points will be deducted for lack of clarity, for using any use of the words: submit, submitted, submitting, submissive and submission (or any derivative thereof), or for offending against any of the general posting guidelines as laid down by site owner here and here.

Articles will be judged by whoever reads them and the decision of the judges will most certainly not be final or binding on any person in any way and may be reviewed on appeal at any time by submitting another article.

Needless to say there are no prizes to be had beyond the loving appreciation of your readers and the glory of participating.

[Editor's note: To submit an article, start a new topic in the readers' forum. If you have ideas for articles suitable for this site, please add your ideas as a comment below. No other comments on this page, please. Thanks, everyone!]

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From vague awareness to a beautiful relationship
The hazards of self-sacrifice and impossible standards
Secretary: the film
Ms. Damen [should be] taken in hand

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