This article is wonderfully rich with ideas for how to seduce a woman into accepting your authority, and many men will find it very helpful. However, be sure to use it as inspiration rather than following the specific ideas as a recipe. There is no recipe for creating a Taken In Hand relationship, and the way you do it must suit the two of you as individuals. Some women might react against a more subtle approach (seeing it as a manipulative agenda) in a way that they might not if you talk to them directly. Other women might respond well to a more subtle approach but might be driven to extreme violence if you follow one or other of these specific ideas.

Taken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post!

In a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand.

Eric argues that a man possessing natural leadership does not need to use violence to settle a dispute, and should not do so. But what if that is what the woman wants, Eric?!

Tevemer says – enough brat bashing! Let's not lose our sense of humour!

Many readers will be nodding their heads in recognition as they read this article about what being taken in hand has done for the writer.

This author understands the desire many women feel to be brought to submission rather than handing it to a man on a plate. He does not make clear (and perhaps even disagrees) that strength/weakness is independent of dominance/submission; nevertheless, this is a piece that will speak to many readers.

Lonnie sounds a note of caution about the advice of books and websites aiming to help men appear to be alpha males.

Louise used to think that making changes to please her husband would be to diminish herself. She was not going to change! To find out what changed her mind and what happened when she changed her policy, hit the read article link now!

On the subject of the reality of the phenomenon of human alpha males, beta males and omega males.

Eric says he wants neither a dominant nor a submissive woman. What he wants is what he describes as a “resistant” woman. To find out what he means by that, hit the read article link now!

Adam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements.

This short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship.

Some people spend so much time trying to analyse their relationships by the book and have a relationship by the book that they fail to meet one another's individual needs.

Is it true that more dominant women necessarily prefer submissive men? If we are to believe some research done by Maslow in the 1930s and early ’40s, no! In fact, Maslow is reported to have concluded that whether a woman is what he called “high dominance”, “medium dominance”, or “low dominance”, she wants a man who is a little more dominant than she is.

Why would a man want to (consensually) rape the woman he loves? And why would she want him to? And why call it “rape” if it is consensual? Here is Aiden's poetic answer. Please do not hit the read article link unless rape is not a difficult issue for you.

In this heartfelt letter, Leea says that she has wants to stop emasculating her husband and start trusting him, so that he can be the protector he always wanted to be. Click the read article link!

In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee?

Don't miss this superb piece by Max Maximovich, whose laid-back dominance helps the woman he loves become her truest self. Beautiful. Please write more, Max!

This brilliant piece should have been on the front page long ago. Melanie's description of the wrestling with forbidden desires that she went through on her way to bliss will strike a chord with many, many readers. Please write more articles, Melanie!

This powerful article will thrill women who crave a man's control. Such women know that it is, as the writer says, sometimes necessary to “get beyond the polite and tasteful, and into the rape aspect of discipline.”

Why, after many decades of marriage, would a man still find it necessary to discipline his wife? And why would she let him?

Anna Grace was lucky enough to receive this beautiful message from her boyfriend, Ken – a love letter, a message about learning the Taken In Hand ropes, a message about what it means to be dominant.

This lyrical article expresses deep insights into what it means to be taken in hand, and how being taken in hand can help a woman become who she truly is. Breathtaking.

Don't miss this comment! It is Adjel's charming account of how, when she in effect gave her husband permission to do so, he stopped suppressing his alpha male characteristics, and everything evolved from there in a most delightful way. Adjel, I hope you will submit an article!

If you don't believe that a woman who has experienced real rape would want this, Jayda's anecdotes and insights may persuade you. If you too have the desire to be ‘raped’, and this makes you “feel like a sick pervert” (as one correspondent wrote) this article may help.

How one woman's inner demon was exorcised by the judicious application of a little TLD (tender loving discipline) by her lovely husband.

There are no knights in shining armour, there is just you. But as long as you are not hampered by knight in shining armour expectations, you might well be able to improve your own life, as this writer has done. Hit the read article link now!

Women who are high dominance tend to attract lots of submissive men. What is a woman to do if she is strong and possibly even dominant in some sense, but she is drawn to men who are even more dominant than she is, and not to submissive men? Try to suppress her strength? Try to become more submissive? Try to act submissive even when she doesn't feel it? What do you think?

Louise wittily captures the conflicts many women attracted to Taken In Hand feel.

Theo thinks that he has made a big mistake in how he has been relating to his wife, but reading Taken In Hand has given him hope for the future. Best of luck, Theo, and do let us know how it goes – I can't wait for the next exciting instalment!

In this very interesting article, Maddy explains how she and her wonderful husband reconcile their Taken In Hand way of life with their strong belief in feminism.

When people ask whether you want to be “dominated” what is your answer? I never quite know whether the answer is yes or no. It depends! What does the questioner have in mind? People often think that because sexual dominance and service-orientated submission leave them cold, there is nothing sexual about their desire for their man to take charge. This piece explains what is really going on in such cases.

Authority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. Many Taken In Hand readers use consensual authority to enhance their relationship.

Blush was a spirited, independent woman when she met Gary. Then she added to that her submission. And now loves it so much that she misses it when Gary is preoccupied with work and not asking for so much submission from her.

Desire points out that being ‘raped’ is indeed a gift – a gift of control for those who want that.

Being a phlegmatic sort of person, it is not often that the mere presence of another person has the power to do any more than make me recoil from the olfactory shock caused by their halitosis or their overpowering aftershave. But very occasionally (about once a decade) I have found myself intensely affected by the mere presence of a man – so intensely affected that it has taken every ounce of self-control to appear unmoved. Why?

Lori says wisely that if you don't have the chemistry, don't even think about trying to create a relationship: it won't work, no matter how much you might wish it could.

When it comes to relationships, we all know that actions speak louder than words – I am only stating the obvious, here – but even the most rational individuals can sometimes get swept up in excitement and forget everything they know. It happens to the best of us! So this is just a little reminder.

KrosRogue blamed his wife for the failure of their marriage and says that he developed expectations impossible for any woman to meet. Now he realises that he is responsible for his own self-sacrifice, and he is wrestling with his expectations.