Does the man have to be perfect to take the woman in hand?

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Does the man have to be perfect to take the woman in hand?

If he did, how many men would qualify?!

No, he does not have to be perfect. Naturally, a man who has abusive monster tendencies might not be the best candidate for a Taken In Hand relationship, but there is no reason your average fallible human being who is reasonably sane and tries to be a good person can't take a willing woman in hand.

See also:
Shades of grey
Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?
Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?
Empowering dominance
The erotic power of the unshackled man
What do you mean, you want to be taken in hand?!
The carrot or the stick?
Power connectivity
Stereotypes
How is this different from other male-led relationships?

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