Nicole Kelly

Surrendering to the man I nearly destroyed

Nicole says of this piece: “This is the story of how I destroyed a dominant man and how we have moved from then to now. The transformations that have taken place. This is not a romance story. It is an ugly account of emotional abuse, the ramifications to the man being abused, and the recovery of the female abuser and her own transformation from being domineering to wanting to surrender to the man she abused.” I say to Nicole: instead of beating yourself up for past wrongs, learn from your mistakes (as you have, evidently) and move forwards. The fact that you are aware of what you have done, and have changed, makes you an objectively better person – and much more brave than most people. It takes courage to face these things. Celebrate your positive changes! Too much guilt can paralyse one's mind and prevent further improvements. No one is perfect. We all have no option but to start from where we are and make improvements from there.

2004 Apr 3 - 10:18 | 10 comments | read article |