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What's in it for the man?The freedom to be an alpha male: the joy!Don't miss this comment! It is Adjel's charming account of how, when she in effect gave her husband permission to do so, he stopped suppressing his alpha male characteristics, and everything evolved from there in a most delightful way. Adjel, I hope you will submit an article! 2004 Aug 13 - 23:45 | read article | permanent link
The worm turns (a little late, but better late than never!)Theo thinks that he has made a big mistake in how he has been relating to his wife, but reading Taken In Hand has given him hope for the future. Best of luck, Theo, and do let us know how it goes – I can't wait for the next exciting instalment! What Taken In Hand has done for our marriageWhat do you get out of your Taken In Hand relationship? As regular readers know, I have been asking this question a lot. Here is Tammy's answer. Moving into a Taken In Hand relationshipHow did you tell your husband that you wanted to be taken in hand? And what happened when you did? Hit the read article for this heart-warming story of one person's journey from suppressing her desires, to getting what she wants. The dynamics of our Taken In Hand relationshipWhy do you use discipline in your relationship? For Melanie and Paul, it is erotic, it makes Melanie want to submit, and it makes Paul feel protective; thus, they want to make each other happy. Yeay! Taken In Hand relationships are hot and closeThe three things DG wants in a relationship, he has in abundance with his wife. To find out what those three things are, click the read article link. Never do without sex againAs DG says, I have been asking men to write on the subject of what they get out of their Taken In Hand relationships, and why other men might want to do the same. For DG's rather explosive answer, hit the read article link now. The paradox of the master and the queenThis short and very sweet piece by Melanie is about another fascinating and paradox of Taken In Hand relationships. I look forward to receiving more articles from you, Melanie! What I get out of itI have been asking men to write on the subject of what they get out of having a Taken In Hand relationship. Other men here have since written more fully on the subject, but this answer by Todd Evans was one of the first, dating back to the very early days of this site. What the man gets out of itRandom's much-acclaimed series of articles on what the man gets out of a Taken In Hand relationship. 2004 Feb 13 - 09:58 | read article | permanent link
Do you think he doesn't have it in him?When Melanie decided to take the plunge and surrender control to her husband, she was surprised by his reaction. What does the man get out of it? Many things!In this fascinating article, Random frankly relates what he gets out of his relationship with J. Definitely one to show a man if you want to introduce him to the idea of Taken In Hand style relationships! The exquisite pleasure of childlikeness in a womanIf you can't imagine why anyone would find childlikeness an attractive characteristic, hit the read article link now, for this very enlightening explanation by Random. What's in it for the man? Freedom!Random paints a powerful word picture of the freeing, liberated feeling he has as a result of being the head of his household. If you can't understand the attraction of this sort of relationship, don't miss this! The paradox of the strong and submissive womanMax Maximovich on his fabulous relationship with M, and his thoughts on the paradox he has mentioned here. The healing power of taking her in handWhen someone in a conventional relationship gets into a state, a fight is often the result. Frank Nelson relates an experience that illustrates the healing power of taking a woman in hand. No helpless hysterical heroines here!In this charming article, which I know will speak to lots of women, and help men understand how many women feel, Amber writes about her childhood irritation with helpless movie heroines, and about her later discovery that being submissive does not have to mean giving up your strong, independent, effective self. Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!Why is it that most conventional people find themselves settling for stale, lifeless relationships with unsatisfying sex, whereas people writing on Taken In Hand often mention that their desire for one another is greater than ever even after many years? Being taken in hand is hot!If you feel no sexual arousal at all during serious disciplinary spankings, how can it possibly be erotic? And if it is, doesn't that mean that it is all just a kinky game, and not real? Hit the read article link for my answers to these thorny questions. Surrendered in loveBen and his wife have been married 33 years. About eighteen months ago, his wife announced that she wanted to be ‘surrendered’ (as in The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle). To enjoy Ben's delectable real life adult fairy tale, hit the read article link. Blanket consentThis fascinating and clearly very honest article by Brandy is about the journey she and her husband have travelled to blanket consent, and highlights the increased emotional connection this affords. The dual failures of menAlthough rarely explicit, a woman will frequently give implicit permission to a man to do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship together. She then expects him to act on her permission... If the man fails to act in a timely fashion, whatever love the woman has for him will, in time, crumble into a loathing for which there is no human cure. What you need to know about Taken In HandWhat is Taken In Hand about? A return to times past in which many women had no choice? Or stepping into a future free from prescriptions and proscriptions about the sort of relationships deemed acceptable? If you are in any doubt, hit the read article link now! |