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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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DisciplineTaken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Taken In Hand has changed our marriageHow has Taken In Hand changed your marriage? Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?It is often said that a man should not need to get physical to remain in charge of his woman. Tevemer points out the flaws in this idea. Taken In Hand means different things to different peopleThere is a lot to consider if you want to be taken in hand. Here are just a few of the issues you might want to think about and discuss. Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?What is the difference between being submissive (if you're a woman) on the one hand, and being Taken In Hand on the other? Or is there any difference? It depends whom you ask! Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? What is the secret recipe?What is it about being thoroughly taken in hand and spanked that produces profound effects like these? Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. Attention to detailRace on how careful attention to detail has helped him in his relationship with his wife. How badly I want this; how difficult it is to ask for itMany women badly want to be taken in hand but are too embarrassed to mention this desire to a man. I hope that the existence of this website might help. Switches do grow on treesA walk in the country will never be the same again after reading this charming article. Practical hints for men - times of stressCarlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress. My husband's calm control makes me feel submissiveIt is not the act of spanking in itself that causes such wonderful changes when couples move into a Taken In Hand relationship, it is the underlying psychological effects on both partners, as Louise's very nice example shows. Virtues of the lowly switchThis one is for all those who like or are curious about that most pure of implements, the switch. Domestic discipline (DD)What is the difference between Taken In Hand and DD (domestic discipline)? It is a mainly just a difference of focus. Can physical chastisement cure bad habits?For Louise's answer, hit the read article link now! Trials and errors – appeasement for angerKrosRogue's account of the demise of a recent relationship and what lesson he has drawn from this experience. Happy living in fear of a man?!If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now! Force of willMany readers find the idea of control through sheer physical force exciting, but in this piece, Louise points out that it is the psychological control that her husband has over her (with his authoritative manner) that really excites her. (Note to Taken In Hand writers and potential writers: I'd like to put up more articles exploring the psychology of control (whether expressed physically forcefully or otherwise) should anyone feel like submitting an article or three.) Our new beginningA reader's account of the new hope he has for his marriage, now that his wife seems to have decided that she wants him to take control. Alpha male dominanceIn a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand. A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. CommunicationThis short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship. Why would a women want to be spanked?In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee? Wanting a masterful manThis brilliant piece should have been on the front page long ago. Melanie's description of the wrestling with forbidden desires that she went through on her way to bliss will strike a chord with many, many readers. Please write more articles, Melanie! Don't forget your whipThis powerful article will thrill women who crave a man's control. Such women know that it is, as the writer says, sometimes necessary to “get beyond the polite and tasteful, and into the rape aspect of discipline.” Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriageWhy, after many decades of marriage, would a man still find it necessary to discipline his wife? And why would she let him? Authority in a Taken In Hand relationshipAuthority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. Many Taken In Hand readers use consensual authority to enhance their relationship. Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. Why Taken In Hand isn't actually unfairConfusedofHomeCounties (such a misnomer!) has been thinking about accountability and the seeming unfairness of a Taken In Hand relationship in which only one person is disciplined, and here presents an insightful account of how and why it works for her. The dynamics of our Taken In Hand relationshipWhy do you use discipline in your relationship? For Melanie and Paul, it is erotic, it makes Melanie want to submit, and it makes Paul feel protective; thus, they want to make each other happy. Yeay! From vague awareness to a beautiful relationshipDon't miss this lovely account by Lady K of her development from vague stirrings when she read Heinlein's I Will Fear No Evil to the beautiful Taken In Hand relationship she and her husband have now. A breakdown on the road to intimacyThe path to intimacy isn't always smooth, but if you can talk and think about the bumps and obstacles and together find your way through or around them, you will get there in the end. Hit the read article link for Sam and Missy's heartwarming account of how they handled such a breakdown on their road to intimacy. Why is real punishment spanking erotic?Many Taken In Hand folk do not use physical discipline or punishment in their relationship. But for those who do, this series of articles explains some otherwise puzzling facts and paradoxes. 2004 Feb 22 - 08:27 | read article | permanent link
Offering an olive branchNo one is perfect, so what do you do when you have behaved badly? Following my article, Reaching out by offering yourself, Issie told this story of an offering of her own. It's not about blame, so forget ‘fairness’!Frank Nelson's insights about the trouble people get into when they think in terms of ‘fairness’. |