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TevemerA man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. Closing the gapThis warm and insightful piece illustrates the fact that even those in the closest relationship can sometimes inadvertently misinterpret the other's signals and think that the other is being a bit distant. It also shows how being able to have fun and laugh together can break any tension and put things back on track. Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Real life leadership or rules and rigidity?Tevemer and her husband dropped the rules-based approach they adopted in the beginning – in favour of a more naturally-evolving real-life style of leadership. Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?It is often said that a man should not need to get physical to remain in charge of his woman. Tevemer points out the flaws in this idea. Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked?In a Taken In Hand relationship, the woman wholeheartedly consents to being under the man's authority, but consent can be revoked. Does that make the authority any less real? Women need to know when NOT to do as they're told!In this light-hearted article, Tevemer argues that what women really need to know is when not to do as they are told! Is it a mistake to spank when angry?People often say that on no account should you take someone in hand physically if you are angry. This sounds like a sensible rule of thumb, but I have never thought much of it. Now that she has been on the sharp end of an angry spanking, how does Tevemer feel? One person's abuse is another person's happy marriageTevemer points out that people often jump to conclusions about other people's relationships on the flimsiest of evidence. Some possible benefits of taking your wife in handWhen Tevemer's husband took control in their relationship, Tevemer found that she wanted to please him in a way that she never had before. In defence of brats everywhere!Tevemer says – enough brat bashing! Let's not lose our sense of humour! The F-wordTevemer is a feminist in a Taken In Hand relationship, and in this article, she argues persuasively that there is no inconsistency here. Why does it work?Why does this kind of relationship work? Tevemer says that the more her husband asserts himself, the more she respects and desires him. Why does it work for you? |