In her article, First year trials, Susie Joy mentioned that she had initially fought her husband's control but that they then found peace. Hit the read article link for her insights into the change of heart that changed everything.

It was Howard Frank's birthday recently, but he was not looking forward to it, as his past few birthdays have been ghastly. This one, though, was different.

Why are so many men reluctant to take a woman in hand, and what can you do to persuade your man to do so? Noone has some ideas that might help.

When Melanie decided to take the plunge and surrender control to her husband, she was surprised by his reaction.

How can you possibly expect to change anyone's behavior or attitude if you give them what they want when they do the things you least want them to do? Max Maximovich has a brilliant answer. Hit the read article link now!

In this warm exploration of the idea of spanking for connection, Max Maximovich argues that to be happy in life, we must learn what our true nature is and follow it in the best and most honest way we know how.

Robert talks about the conflict between societal expectations and our inclinations, and encourages us to face the truth about ourselves and hold our heads high, as it were, instead of suppressing our desires and being unhappy.

Tracy describes the dominance and submission which characterises her long-term marriage. This all happened early on, before they had read about these kinds of relationships, so what strikes me about Tracy's description is how natural it all sounds. A lovely piece.

Sam and Missy have been happily married for 23 years, but Sam had always had the feeling that something was missing, both within himself and in the marriage. Then he discovered Taken In Hand...

Dóra knows that if she steps out of line, her husband won't hesitate to discipline her severely. Hit the read article link to learn more about the traditional marriage Dóra loves so much.

The casual observer might think that Taken In Hand readers are saying that they want to be taken or taken in hand against their will, but what is really going on here? An investigation of the psychology of consensual non-consent.

Random's account of his first ever experiences of taking a woman in hand.

After the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game.

Susie Joy has put her finger on how and why being taken in hand helps.

It was 1981 and Leah was 17, going on 18. She had just arrived at college when she met Rob, the man who would later become her husband. He certainly made an impact! To read Leah's wonderful (and true!) story, hit the read article link.

Scarlet has a red-hot message for her husband. I hope he's sitting down when he reads it: when Scarlet says she wants to be possessed, she really means it!

Melanie asks: How do you submit to a man who won't do what you need him to do? She has been getting very frustrated, and after this got so bad that she threw things, her husband spanked her. Help, please!

When Caroline last wrote, she feared she had awoken a sleeping dragon. Now she relates how the flames felt. Hot stuff!

The other day, I heard the Queen song, I want it all, and have not been able to get it out of my head since. Sometimes I am so aware of how much there is to feel and do and experience before it's game over, that it is difficult to be patient. I want it all, and I want it now! If this sounds like you, you won't want to miss this article!

If you can't imagine why anyone would want to be spanked, and can't imagine what possible positive feelings it could occasion, hit the read article link. This powerful, poignant piece by Annie is very illuminating.

If a woman finds the idea of being taken in hand erotic, how can taking her in hand also ’work’ to modify her behaviour? Spanking would be a reward, not a punishment! Wouldn't it be more efficient to withhold spanking? Nooooooooooo! Hit the read article link to find out why not!

If you feel no sexual arousal at all during serious disciplinary spankings, how can it possibly be erotic? And if it is, doesn't that mean that it is all just a kinky game, and not real? Hit the read article link for my answers to these thorny questions.

Okay, I confess! I misled you. This is not about the ‘M’ word as in ‘marriage’, it is about the ‘M’ word as in ‘maintenance spanking’. If you feel, or your woman feels, frustatingly unsatisfied by ‘maintenance spanking’, you won't want to miss this!

If your man often keeps you waiting (and not in a good way!),

Str8 Talkin' Mutha has some naughty table-turning advice for you. Well they do say fortune favours the brave...

Howard Frank explains his gentle but firm hands-on approach with his wife, and talks about what he has discovered on this journey of increased connection and intimacy.

Advice for women who think that their men might be reluctant to take control and discipline them more seriously.

Ben and his wife have been married 33 years. About eighteen months ago, his wife announced that she wanted to be ‘surrendered’ (as in The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle). To enjoy Ben's delectable real life adult fairy tale, hit the read article link.

A woman's letter to her hypothetical husband.

Susie Joy enthuses about how things have developed over the first year of her marriage to Robert. Two things that helped were that he took her out of a stressful job, and that he spanks her whenever he thinks fit.

Many of you have read Blush's beautiful articles about her fabulously loving and wildly passionate relationship with her husband, Gary. But what does Gary have to say about it? Could he possibly be as wonderful as Blush says he is? I am thrilled to be able to present Gary's side of the story here. And when you read it, I think you will agree that the answer to the question I have just asked is a resounding yes.

Susie had dreamt alI her life about having a man strong enough to be in charge and to take her in hand. So why, she asks, was her first year of living with her dream man so dreadfully difficult? For the answer, and to find out how everything got resolved, hit the read article link.

Right from the beginning of their relationship, Stephen's wife wanted him to wear the trousers. She was not interested in a relationship based on so-called equality. She expects to be obedient. To her, obedience is not only a matter of respect for me and our relationship, it adds an erotic charge to daily life. Yes, obedience is sexy. It is romantic. It creates passion!

Some people like having lists of rules to adhere to, but for anyone who doesn't, Daisy argues persuasively for throwing out the idea of house rules and any other unwelcome micromanagement which might be causing resentment.

This fascinating and clearly very honest article by Brandy is about the journey she and her husband have travelled to blanket consent, and highlights the increased emotional connection this affords.

In this exuberant and very interesting article, Issie explains that the way she and her husband choose to relate is not about pointless physical punishments but about traditional roles which obviate the ubiquitous battles for leadership and consequent disharmony.

Blush, on the subject of what happens when her wonderful husband Gary has disappointed her or made an error in judgement.

Annie on obedience and autonomy in her wonderful relationship.

Daisy argues that asking for what you want doesn't necessarily mean you are being pushy, and if you don't ask, you might not get what you want. Moreover, the mere fact that the man has not thought of it first does not mean he won't be interested once he knows you are.

What is wrong with men? Have they completely lost the dominant, decisive, proactive, self-confident traits that we all consider masculine? The basic message of this superb article by Egghead is that they have not.

Issie's husband Mark is so strong and centred and emotionally intelligent that Issie didn't want to win the battle for supremacy within their household...