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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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SpankingThe pathAiden on the natural unity of masculine dominance and feminine submission. The dual failures of menAlthough rarely explicit, a woman will frequently give implicit permission to a man to do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship together. She then expects him to act on her permission... If the man fails to act in a timely fashion, whatever love the woman has for him will, in time, crumble into a loathing for which there is no human cure. When I'm in overdrive...Blush, on how, when she is in overdrive, Gary asserts himself in the most gentle yet dominant of ways to slow her down and soothe her. Reaching out by offering yourselfWhen everything goes wrong and your man is about to withdraw and give you the silent treatment, what can you do to reconnect with him? Here's one idea. Introducing the intimate control dynamicFascinating thoughts from Frank Nelson on introducing the intimate control dynamic in a new relationship, and on the challenges men face during this process. Creating an unbreakable bond of love takes timeBlush had to wait and wait before Gary would take her in hand physically. Gary was in control. Ms. Damen [should be] taken in hand (I jest!)Ms. Damen feels so dirty after reading Karen's piece that she feels the need to take a shower. “I honestly thought drivel like this only popped up in Penthouse letters,” she fumes. Hmmm, Penthouse letters, eh? Presumably the implication is that Karen's piece is intended to be erotic. Imagine my surprise, then, when I read Ms. Damen's next stinging blow (oops, no allusion to spanking intended)... The sweetest “Benevolent Dictatorship” everDarrell called what he and Kathy had, a Benevolent Dictatorship. For Kathy's account, click the read article link. A need for controlSharron explains that of the three types of submission – obedience, service, and control – her primary need is for control. The night that changed our marriage for everTo read about the night two decades ago that changed Karen's marriage for ever, click the read article link. Don't go into your cave, get out your preferred implement!An impassioned plea to men to stop going into their cave and start getting out the wooden spoon. Tradition, feminism, Victoria and AlbertThe phrase taken in hand comes from the expressed sentiment that there are times in a woman's life when a man needs to take her in hand and straighten her out. Joyful submissionAnnie is not submissive in the way some are, so she began to wonder when she is actually submissive. This insightful article looks at when submission brings her joy. To let goTo read the Blush's white hot piece about how, to her great joy, her husband uses her to relax and wind down after a stressed-out day as a high-powered executive, click the read article link below. The intimate control dynamicOn the intimate control dynamic and “intimate discipline”. Where are all the strong men?Janet has tried dating New Men and has found them unexciting. She likes to be aware of the difference between her and her man. In this piece, she explains why. What does the man get out of it?In this fun poem, hajones addresses the perplexing question of what the man gets out of indulging the woman in this way. If anyone would like to write on this subject, we'd love to hear from you! Is Taken In Hand about discipline?Is Taken In Hand about discipline? |