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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about controlHow it felt to be taken in hand for the very first timeJoan enthuses excitedly about a mind-blowing experience of hers: the first time ever her boyfriend Alan took her in hand. As she says, being taken in hand has powerful effects! How I feel before, during and after being spankedIf you can't imagine why anyone would want to be spanked, and can't imagine what possible positive feelings it could occasion, hit the read article link. This powerful, poignant piece by Annie is very illuminating. Why you should not withhold spanking!If a woman finds the idea of being taken in hand erotic, how can taking her in hand also ’work’ to modify her behaviour? Spanking would be a reward, not a punishment! Wouldn't it be more efficient to withhold spanking? Nooooooooooo! Hit the read article link to find out why not! Being taken in hand is hot!If you feel no sexual arousal at all during serious disciplinary spankings, how can it possibly be erotic? And if it is, doesn't that mean that it is all just a kinky game, and not real? Hit the read article link for my answers to these thorny questions. Why you shouldn't mention the ‘M’ wordOkay, I confess! I misled you. This is not about the ‘M’ word as in ‘marriage’, it is about the ‘M’ word as in ‘maintenance spanking’. If you feel, or your woman feels, frustatingly unsatisfied by ‘maintenance spanking’, you won't want to miss this! Hands-on approachHoward Frank explains his gentle but firm hands-on approach with his wife, and talks about what he has discovered on this journey of increased connection and intimacy. Why a man might be reluctant and what to do about itAdvice for women who think that their men might be reluctant to take control and discipline them more seriously. Romantic rituals for the taken in handBlush is on top form as she relates some subtle but incredibly hot romantic rituals she enjoys in everyday situations courtesy of her lovingly dominant husband, Gary. How we got past the year from hellSusie Joy enthuses about how things have developed over the first year of her marriage to Robert. Two things that helped were that he took her out of a stressful job, and that he spanks her whenever he thinks fit. Blush and Gary, by GaryMany of you have read Blush's beautiful articles about her fabulously loving and wildly passionate relationship with her husband, Gary. But what does Gary have to say about it? Could he possibly be as wonderful as Blush says he is? I am thrilled to be able to present Gary's side of the story here. And when you read it, I think you will agree that the answer to the question I have just asked is a resounding yes. First year trialsSusie had dreamt alI her life about having a man strong enough to be in charge and to take her in hand. So why, she asks, was her first year of living with her dream man so dreadfully difficult? For the answer, and to find out how everything got resolved, hit the read article link. ObedienceRight from the beginning of their relationship, Stephen's wife wanted him to wear the trousers. She was not interested in a relationship based on so-called equality. She expects to be obedient. To her, obedience is not only a matter of respect for me and our relationship, it adds an erotic charge to daily life. Yes, obedience is sexy. It is romantic. It creates passion! The impossibility of installing a spine in a pansyAfter the flak we've been getting lately, I was pleasantly surprised to discover that The Yeti described Taken In Hand as: “A very cool site about married people.” Must be being sarcastic, I thought. (Well gosh, we seem to be regarded as in need of psychiatric help by even the nicest, most open-minded folks.) But to my amazement, I don't think he was being sarcastic. My perfect guy, and the marriage he has given meIn this exuberant and very interesting article, Issie explains that the way she and her husband choose to relate is not about pointless physical punishments but about traditional roles which obviate the ubiquitous battles for leadership and consequent disharmony. Obedience and autonomyAnnie on obedience and autonomy in her wonderful relationship. Why men start and why they stopWhat is wrong with men? Have they completely lost the dominant, decisive, proactive, self-confident traits that we all consider masculine? The basic message of this superb article by Egghead is that they have not. The pathAiden on the natural unity of masculine dominance and feminine submission. The dual failures of menAlthough rarely explicit, a woman will frequently give implicit permission to a man to do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship together. She then expects him to act on her permission... If the man fails to act in a timely fashion, whatever love the woman has for him will, in time, crumble into a loathing for which there is no human cure. The Taming of the ShrewIf you like Taken In Hand and you don't know this play, you are in for a treat if you read this article. (Fear not! No knowledge of archaic language assumed!) If you too love this play, you will want to know which is the best production available on DVD/video, and which ones to avoid. When I'm in overdrive...Blush, on how, when she is in overdrive, Gary asserts himself in the most gentle yet dominant of ways to slow her down and soothe her. Introducing the intimate control dynamicFascinating thoughts from Frank Nelson on introducing the intimate control dynamic in a new relationship, and on the challenges men face during this process. Creating an unbreakable bond of love takes timeBlush had to wait and wait before Gary would take her in hand physically. Gary was in control. Ms. Damen [should be] taken in hand (I jest!)Ms. Damen feels so dirty after reading Karen's piece that she feels the need to take a shower. “I honestly thought drivel like this only popped up in Penthouse letters,” she fumes. Hmmm, Penthouse letters, eh? Presumably the implication is that Karen's piece is intended to be erotic. Imagine my surprise, then, when I read Ms. Damen's next stinging blow (oops, no allusion to spanking intended)... The sweetest “Benevolent Dictatorship” everDarrell called what he and Kathy had, a Benevolent Dictatorship. For Kathy's account, click the read article link. A need for controlSharron explains that of the three types of submission – obedience, service, and control – her primary need is for control. Total obedience?Do you think that the woman should be obedient at all times, in the sense that, aside from playful disobedience, she obeys without question come what may? The night that changed our marriage for everTo read about the night two decades ago that changed Karen's marriage for ever, click the read article link. White hot intensity and boundless joyBlush on why she likes submission – the power she feels in being loved this intensely, the incredible connection. Don't go into your cave, get out your preferred implement!An impassioned plea to men to stop going into their cave and start getting out the wooden spoon. Tradition, feminism, Victoria and AlbertThe phrase taken in hand comes from the expressed sentiment that there are times in a woman's life when a man needs to take her in hand and straighten her out. To let goTo read the Blush's white hot piece about how, to her great joy, her husband uses her to relax and wind down after a stressed-out day as a high-powered executive, click the read article link below. Where are all the strong men?Janet has tried dating New Men and has found them unexciting. She likes to be aware of the difference between her and her man. In this piece, she explains why. Thanks for giving me hopeWanting this lifestyle so much that it has become a physical need...a pain that grabs me every day...is something that I face and that I hope will not last much longer. Some days I want to give up on ever finding anyone who could take me on... Is Taken In Hand about discipline?Is Taken In Hand about discipline? |