Fosti argues that it is important for the man in a Taken In Hand relationship to keep an open channel of communication, so that the woman feels ‘heard’.

A relationship that exists purely in your own mind and not in active engagement with the other person is not a relationship, it is a fantasy. Fantasy is great, but it is not a relationship; and despising yourself for needing attention is not the answer.

If a woman disobeys her man, Horst argues, the man should assume that he is at least partly at fault.

To read this charming article about Sam's discovery of what it means to know a woman, hit the read article link now!

Bramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights.

Not all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge.

Blush gently suggests that if you are single and looking, the most important quality to look for is not dominance but love.

Is monogamy a prison, hell on earth, or sheer heaven?

In this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership.

Separating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?!

If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now!

Taken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post!

Louise used to think that making changes to please her husband would be to diminish herself. She was not going to change! To find out what changed her mind and what happened when she changed her policy, hit the read article link now!

This short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship.

Some people spend so much time trying to analyse their relationships by the book and have a relationship by the book that they fail to meet one another's individual needs.

In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee?

Don't miss this superb piece by Max Maximovich, whose laid-back dominance helps the woman he loves become her truest self. Beautiful. Please write more, Max!

This lyrical article expresses deep insights into what it means to be taken in hand, and how being taken in hand can help a woman become who she truly is. Breathtaking.

Don't miss this comment! It is Adjel's charming account of how, when she in effect gave her husband permission to do so, he stopped suppressing his alpha male characteristics, and everything evolved from there in a most delightful way. Adjel, I hope you will submit an article!

Is this all about spanking per se, or is there more to it than that? For Blush, it has been a voyage of discovery that has broadened her focus from spanking alone to – well, hit the read article link to find out!

Baltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage.

Why do you use discipline in your relationship? For Melanie and Paul, it is erotic, it makes Melanie want to submit, and it makes Paul feel protective; thus, they want to make each other happy. Yeay!

The three things DG wants in a relationship, he has in abundance with his wife. To find out what those three things are, click the read article link.

Don't miss this lovely account by Lady K of her development from vague stirrings when she read Heinlein's I Will Fear No Evil to the beautiful Taken In Hand relationship she and her husband have now.

Who is this person you're in a relationship with? KrosRogue says it is three persons.

Don't miss this short and very wise piece about the difference between submission and subjugation.

It's OK to want (to be) an anchor, says LAR.

This short and very sweet piece by Melanie is about another fascinating and paradox of Taken In Hand relationships. I look forward to receiving more articles from you, Melanie!

The path to intimacy isn't always smooth, but if you can talk and think about the bumps and obstacles and together find your way through or around them, you will get there in the end. Hit the read article link for Sam and Missy's heartwarming account of how they handled such a breakdown on their road to intimacy.

No one is perfect, so what do you do when you have behaved badly? Following my article, Reaching out by offering yourself, Issie told this story of an offering of her own.

Frank Nelson's insights about the trouble people get into when they think in terms of ‘fairness’.

I am delighted to present this beautiful Valentine, written by Sam, for his beloved Missy. Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!

In this beautifully-written article, Jeff explains that Taken In Hand trusting another to care for you most intimately, and caring enough for another that they trust you with their most intimate self.

In this fascinating article about love and life, inspired by the film, About Schmidt, Stephen relates some vital insights he has gleaned over the years.

Ben and Clotos have been together for 33 years. In this article, Ben describes their unique relationship and their mutual surrender, and argues that “total ‘slavery’” leads to total freedom within total love.

In this fascinating article, Random frankly relates what he gets out of his relationship with J. Definitely one to show a man if you want to introduce him to the idea of Taken In Hand style relationships!

How can you possibly expect to change anyone's behavior or attitude if you give them what they want when they do the things you least want them to do? Max Maximovich has a brilliant answer. Hit the read article link now!

In this warm exploration of the idea of spanking for connection, Max Maximovich argues that to be happy in life, we must learn what our true nature is and follow it in the best and most honest way we know how.

Why would an intelligent, sane, successful woman want to be taken in hand? Hit the read article link for J's answer.

If you can't imagine why anyone would find childlikeness an attractive characteristic, hit the read article link now, for this very enlightening explanation by Random.