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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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These relationships are deeply connected, engaged and intimateDD relationships - the view of a mental health professionalAlthough we seem to have been attracting the attention of a number of individuals incensed by the fact that there are several doctors, psychologists, social workers and other mental health clinicians writing for this site, here is yet another person in the field who has something sensible to say about the kinds of relationships discussed here. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! Why is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Taken out of my anguishMany readers will identify with Dynomite's charming article. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. The man who doesn't give a stuff about labelsMarie thought she wanted an alpha male, until she met a man confident enough to be gentle and protective. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? A marriage of understanding, passion and pregnancyOne of the wonderful things about a Taken In Hand marriage is that the control dynamics make it possible – in some cases at least – for man and wife to be more excited by one another during pregnancy instead of less. Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. Blossoming in his armsSmitten is truly smitten! When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. My friend, my lover, my rockThis is how one reader describes her husband. How do you describe yours? How our relationship has changedSometimes it is difficult to put the changes into words because many of them are quite subtle. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? A deep and satisfying marriageKat and her husband made a vow to forsake all others until death do them part, and they have a deep and satisfying relationship in which their love continues to grow. Freedom or invested in a deep relationship?Do you like to keep your options open or put all your eggs in one basket? How we have stayed happily married for over 30 yearsLife is never perfect, but marriage is what you make it, and Kat and her husband evidently know what is important. An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... We should consider ourselves so luckyThis beautiful piece by Lucy describes her quintessentially Taken In Hand relationship and the wonderful man who loves her. Essential reading! Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!These anecdotes from Rabbi Shmuley Boteach's wonderful book, Kosher Sex, might help. The missionary positionWhy do some Taken In Hand folk love the much-maligned missionary position? My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! Taken in hand by tendernessAmeribritwife asked her husband to help her wake up earlier. Hit the read article link to find out what happened. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now! My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Taken In Hand - intimacy and romanceStephen on how Taken In Hand intimacy creates lasting romance. Consent, control, connectionWithout control and consent to that control, for many Taken In Hand people there is no erotic connection and nothing to feed the relationship. Shall we dance?Otter on Taken In Hand relationships and the 2004 film, Shall We Dance? It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. Have you found a proper balance?Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy. What is the secret recipe?What is it about being thoroughly taken in hand and spanked that produces profound effects like these? How often do you have sex?Couples in good relationships tend to be more sexually engaged with each other even in later life. In my roomFosti on how he sees his role as the head of his household. Not to be missed! Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. |