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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about obedienceA mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasureLouise muses on the peculiar phenomenon of women choosing to obey their husbands, and being thrilled by their husband's control. Are your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?Don't waste your life looking for something you already have, if only you could see it. His word is finalSharon (sarahdinah) believes in accepting her husband's authority unless he actually loses his mind. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. Men serve and lead, women receive and obeyUnder His Wing explains that to obey is not the same thing as serving. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the coupleBlush on the relationship between Gary's kindness and magnanimity to her and her kindness and magnanimity to others. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?Women sometimes say they want a Taken In Hand relationship but then when they actually start a relationship, seem afraid to give up control. If you are a man who is frustrated that your woman is not acting the way you think she should be acting, or if you are a woman who is being accused of not being submissive enough, not being feminine, or controlling with complaints, hit the read article link now! My life, my choiceChoosing to be in an unconventional relationship can be tough, but it can be well worth it. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?It is often said that a man should not need to get physical to remain in charge of his woman. Tevemer points out the flaws in this idea. Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. Giving up control is not easyGiving up control to the degree Otter has done is really not easy, should not be rushed, and is not for everyone; but for Otter, ultimately, it has relieved stress. A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!It is often the strongest, most fiesty women who want to be taken in hand. Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked?In a Taken In Hand relationship, the woman wholeheartedly consents to being under the man's authority, but consent can be revoked. Does that make the authority any less real? Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?What is the difference between being submissive (if you're a woman) on the one hand, and being Taken In Hand on the other? Or is there any difference? It depends whom you ask! How my husband makes me meltLouise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness. Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? Giving my best to my man who put his foot downStrange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship. Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. Practical hints for men - times of stressCarlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress. Prevention is better than cureIf a woman disobeys her man, Horst argues, the man should assume that he is at least partly at fault. The soothing effect of vowing to obeyAlmost four decades ago, Noone's wife shocked her peers by promising to obey. Some of her friends probably thought her out of her mind, but for her, this vow brought a deep sense of peace. Wedding vows – I promised to “obey”When she married 30 years ago, Kat vowed to obey, but she did not take that seriously. Recently she decided to embrace the idea of obedience. Beauty is in the eye of the beholderKrosRogue is cross! And for an interesting reason that will warm the hearts of many readers. Every woman who thinks herself unattractive should read this piece immediately, and take note. In fact, everyone should read it! He owns it all...How do you feel about the idea of in some sense being owned by a man? Some bristle against the idea; others – like Blush – like it. Authority in a Taken In Hand relationshipAuthority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. Many Taken In Hand readers use consensual authority to enhance their relationship. The alpha male and masculine powerBeing a phlegmatic sort of person, it is not often that the mere presence of another person has the power to do any more than make me recoil from the olfactory shock caused by their halitosis or their overpowering aftershave. But very occasionally (about once a decade) I have found myself intensely affected by the mere presence of a man – so intensely affected that it has taken every ounce of self-control to appear unmoved. Why? Secretary: the filmSecretary was recommended to me as “a film that brings spanking into the mainstream,” “very sexy,” and “one to show a vanilla partner.” But one Taken In Hand reader I talked to vehemently disagreed with this praise. I decided to see it for myself. If you have not seen it and have not yet read any reviews of it, it might be worth seeing it before clicking the read article link. Journey into true submissionOn her journey into true submission, Linda faced many struggles and doubts and other problems, and challenged herself and her attitude at every turn. You may not agree with everything she says, but her story is awe-inspiring and humbling. Here is a woman who truly lives the idea that she is fallible; here is a truly strong woman. What's in it for the man? Freedom!Random paints a powerful word picture of the freeing, liberated feeling he has as a result of being the head of his household. If you can't understand the attraction of this sort of relationship, don't miss this! I love living under my husband's authorityDóra knows that if she steps out of line, her husband won't hesitate to discipline her severely. Hit the read article link to learn more about the traditional marriage Dóra loves so much. I don't want to be a servant or slaveTaken In Hand is not about turning a woman into a servant or slave. I want... to be possessedScarlet has a red-hot message for her husband. I hope he's sitting down when he reads it: when Scarlet says she wants to be possessed, she really means it! |