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Taken in hand without physical controlSaying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! What's in a name?The power of mere words. Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?If you are a man wanting to find a woman with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, you won't want to miss this article by Jeff! Things can changeIndividuals sometimes force themselves to change to please their spouse, and that can be problematic. But some changes are genuine, and part of the process of growing closer and creating a good relationship. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. Men serve and lead, women receive and obeyUnder His Wing explains that to obey is not the same thing as serving. My friend, my lover, my rockThis is how one reader describes her husband. How do you describe yours? Our type of Taken In Hand marriageDespite our similarities, we are all individuals with individual responses. My first Taken in Hand experienceUnlike the stereotypical woman, this writer loves cars. But... Mr Darcy, Mr Knightley and the Taken In Hand idealEdward Anthony on Jane Austen's characters and Taken In Hand. It's all my parents' fault!Yes, this time it's not my grandparents, it's my parents! My Review of Laura Doyle's "The Surrendered Wife"If you have read the book, what did you think of it? Holding coats and opening doorsA fun anecdote by Aurora. ImpregnationWhy many Taken In Hand couples find the idea of impregnation erotic, and how viewing impregnation, pregnancy and breastfeeding from a Taken In Hand perspective can make what could otherwise be difficult or off-putting, intensely exciting. Getting To "I Do", by Patricia Allen: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Pat Allen's Getting to “I Do” or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Respect and responsibilityIf you are a woman, have you ever felt uncomfortable dating a man who expects you to serve him? Have you sometimes been a bit too giving? What do you think about this quote from Pat Allen's book Getting to “I Do”?: “A masculine-energy man does not marry a woman who gives to him, unless he is a “little boy” who wants to be mothered. A masculine man marries a feminine woman who is available to receive from him, who respects him for giving, and who knows how to give back to reward him but always a little less than she gets. [...] Masculine men like problems and challenges. They like the chase. “Little boys” like Mama to do it for them; they don't want you to ask them for anything at all.” (p. 59-60, Chapter 4, Is giving masculine or feminine?) An alpha female bares her throat only to her mateA strong woman might want might well want to be cherished by a stronger man, and she might well not be generally submissive or want to be treated like a servant. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! In defence of books like Fascinating WomanhoodWhen reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless. A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!It is often the strongest, most fiesty women who want to be taken in hand. An iron hand in a velvet gloveThis writer's husband is a former military commander and well able to get physical, but when it comes to his wife, he prefers the iron hand in the velvet glove approach. My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Quietly taken in handNot all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge. Taking her in hand is not a contact sportEric argues that a man possessing natural leadership does not need to use violence to settle a dispute, and should not do so. But what if that is what the woman wants, Eric?! The resistant womanEric says he wants neither a dominant nor a submissive woman. What he wants is what he describes as a “resistant” woman. To find out what he means by that, hit the read article link now! How I became submissiveHow did you become interested in Taken In Hand? Here is Bonnie's story. An 1897 woman's “ideal of manhood”Hit the read article link for some excerpts from an 1897 book whose author says: “Like every other woman, I have my ideal of manhood. The difficulty is to describe it. First of all, he must be a gentleman; but that means so much that it, in its turn, requires explanation...” Does it have to hurt to be Taken In Hand?In this beautifully-written article, Jeff explains that Taken In Hand trusting another to care for you most intimately, and caring enough for another that they trust you with their most intimate self. Liberated through submissionRead this review of Liberated Through Submission, by P. Bunny Wilson, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Romantic rituals for the taken in handBlush is on top form as she relates some subtle but incredibly hot romantic rituals she enjoys in everyday situations courtesy of her lovingly dominant husband, Gary. In praise of Fascinating WomanhoodCharlotte on why she loves Helen Andelin's book, Fascinating Womanhood. My fascinating journeyCynthia Turner introduces the book that changed her marriage and her life, Fascinating Womanhood, by Helen Andelin. Look out for future articles discussing this book. Is Taken In Hand about discipline?Is Taken In Hand about discipline? |