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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Book reviews, and discussions mentioning particular booksMan of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Aubrey Andelin's Man of Steel and Velvet or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Fascinating Womanhood and the ideal womanKelleigh on how Helen Andelin's book, Fascinating Womanhood, changed her life. Laura Schlessinger vs Helen Andelin on how to treat your husbandLouise compares one book to the other. Fascinating Womanhood and meUnlike many Taken In Hand women, Louise is not impressed. The King of the Dark Chamber, by Rabindranath Tagore: a book reviewRead this review of The King of the Dark Chamber, a play written by Rabindranath Tagore, or add your own review by clicking here. Getting your rocks offA brilliant article by VelvetHammer. Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd: a book reviewRead Louise's review of it?Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a reviewLouise reports on this interesting little book from 1961. Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers: a book reviewLouise C on this fascinating book. The Future of Men, by Marian Salzman, Ira Matathia and Ann O'Reilly: a book reviewThe male as marketing fantasy. My first Taken in Hand experienceUnlike the stereotypical woman, this writer loves cars. But... Thy Rod and Staff, by Edward Anthony: a book reviewLouise reviews this book. Mr Darcy, Mr Knightley and the Taken In Hand idealEdward Anthony on Jane Austen's characters and Taken In Hand. The NOW HabitWhat does a book on procrastination have to do with Taken In Hand relationships? Read Anna Grace's article to find out! My Review of Laura Doyle's "The Surrendered Wife"If you have read the book, what did you think of it? Feminine submission and traditional languageA literary piece on the language of sexual submission. Taking Sex Differences Seriously, by Steven E. RhoadsIf you have read this book, this is the place to write a review of it. Love Is A Decision, by Gary Smalley: a book reviewIf you have read this book, what do you think? Getting To "I Do", by Patricia Allen: a book reviewRead Louise's review of Pat Allen's Getting to “I Do” or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: a book reviewRead Charlotte's review of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Laura Schlessinger, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. The Virgin and the Gipsy, by D. H. LawrenceRead this review of D. H. Lawrence's short novel, The Virgin and the Gipsy or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. In defence of books like Fascinating WomanhoodWhen reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless. The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan: a book reviewRead this review of The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. The erotic power of the unshackled manSeparating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?! An 1897 woman's “ideal of manhood”Hit the read article link for some excerpts from an 1897 book whose author says: “Like every other woman, I have my ideal of manhood. The difficulty is to describe it. First of all, he must be a gentleman; but that means so much that it, in its turn, requires explanation...” Don't tell anyone I'm here!All her life, Judith has had a secret desire to be taken by a strong man. The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critiqueSome interesting criticisms of Laura Doyle's book, The Surrendered Wife. Maybe these surrendered women are on to somethingAn interesting update from Melanie, who has been doing some reading. 2004 Jan 31 - 13:11 | read article | permanent link
Dealing with a man who doesn't do as he's toldIf your man won't do as he's told, it is time to stop nagging and start taking action. You do not have to allow yourself to be put into the position of being a nagging wife. There are better ways of solving problems – ways that will empower you without destroying your relationship. I want it all, and I want it now!The other day, I heard the Queen song, I want it all, and have not been able to get it out of my head since. Sometimes I am so aware of how much there is to feel and do and experience before it's game over, that it is difficult to be patient. I want it all, and I want it now! If this sounds like you, you won't want to miss this article! Liberated through submissionRead this review of Liberated Through Submission, by P. Bunny Wilson, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. Surrendered in loveBen and his wife have been married 33 years. About eighteen months ago, his wife announced that she wanted to be ‘surrendered’ (as in The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle). To enjoy Ben's delectable real life adult fairy tale, hit the read article link. My fascinating journeyCynthia Turner introduces the book that changed her marriage and her life, Fascinating Womanhood, by Helen Andelin. Look out for future articles discussing this book. American Beauty meets The Surrendered WifeFor any woman who tends to be controlling, MamaKat recommends The Surrendered Wife. |