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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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How to tell him/herAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?This is an FAQ question: How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship? Being yourselfBlush offers some words of advice for those looking for a Taken In Hand relationship How I discovered what I needWhen you introduce the idea of Taken In Hand to the person you love, he or she might not immediately react well to the idea, but people often start liking the idea later, as in this case. Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?If you are a man wanting to find a woman with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, you won't want to miss this article by Jeff! How to read this siteWorried by something you have read on this site? Here is how to interpret what you read here. So grateful - Taken In Hand has set us freeSian thought she was alone with her secret desire, until she found this site. A man in charge needs to be firm and steadyStephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand. Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. Being with a stronger man allows a strong woman to relaxNot to live with the fear that one might inadvertently overpower the man one loves is deeply relaxing, as Milly says. Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?That's what you think. But it might be that you are inadvertently undermining him because you cannot see the man he is. You may think this is definitely not the case, but it is worth taking steps to make sure that it is not you who are the barrier to change. Flying by the seat of your pantsLove is more visceral than cerebral. It is more flying by the seat of one's pants than filing a flight plan. How do you maintain control in little ways?Control need not necessarily involve violence or anything very dramatic. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. Not all men will get it unless you explainHave you ever walked away from a man who would have taken you in hand if only he'd known that that was what you wanted? Has a woman ever walked away from you because her “take me in hand” hints did not get through to you? Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Taking it step-by-step making piecemeal changesTo read Jennifer's interesting account of how she has gradually explored Taken In Hand ideas with her husband, hit the read article link now! In defence of books like Fascinating WomanhoodWhen reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless. A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!It is often the strongest, most fiesty women who want to be taken in hand. Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?Glitter wants a man who has self-control and integrity – like her grandfather. Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. How badly I want this; how difficult it is to ask for itMany women badly want to be taken in hand but are too embarrassed to mention this desire to a man. I hope that the existence of this website might help. Don't wait too long to tell herWhen should you tell a woman with whom you are in a new relationship what kind of relationship you want? Stephen explains why the answer is not too long. Look for loveBlush gently suggests that if you are single and looking, the most important quality to look for is not dominance but love. Seduction of the independent femaleThis article is wonderfully rich with ideas for how to seduce a woman into accepting your authority, and many men will find it very helpful. However, be sure to use it as inspiration rather than following the specific ideas as a recipe. There is no recipe for creating a Taken In Hand relationship, and the way you do it must suit the two of you as individuals. Some women might react against a more subtle approach (seeing it as a manipulative agenda) in a way that they might not if you talk to them directly. Other women might respond well to a more subtle approach but might be driven to extreme violence if you follow one or other of these specific ideas. A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. Craving protection, learning to trustIn this heartfelt letter, Leea says that she has wants to stop emasculating her husband and start trusting him, so that he can be the protector he always wanted to be. Click the read article link! Don't forget your whipThis powerful article will thrill women who crave a man's control. Such women know that it is, as the writer says, sometimes necessary to “get beyond the polite and tasteful, and into the rape aspect of discipline.” Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. Sharing the secret of our successWhen you receive comments like: “What happened? You two look so much in love now!” you may feel like sharing the secret of your success. But how can you tell people in ways that won't attract condemnation and wild misunderstandings? Frank Nelson has the answers! Why is real punishment spanking erotic?Many Taken In Hand folk do not use physical discipline or punishment in their relationship. But for those who do, this series of articles explains some otherwise puzzling facts and paradoxes. 2004 Feb 22 - 08:27 | read article | permanent link
Persuading him to spank youWhy are so many men reluctant to take a woman in hand, and what can you do to persuade your man to do so? Noone has some ideas that might help. What does the man get out of it? Many things!In this fascinating article, Random frankly relates what he gets out of his relationship with J. Definitely one to show a man if you want to introduce him to the idea of Taken In Hand style relationships! Secretary: the filmSecretary was recommended to me as “a film that brings spanking into the mainstream,” “very sexy,” and “one to show a vanilla partner.” But one Taken In Hand reader I talked to vehemently disagreed with this praise. I decided to see it for myself. If you have not seen it and have not yet read any reviews of it, it might be worth seeing it before clicking the read article link. A new journeySam and Missy have been happily married for 23 years, but Sam had always had the feeling that something was missing, both within himself and in the marriage. Then he discovered Taken In Hand... What's in it for the man? Freedom!Random paints a powerful word picture of the freeing, liberated feeling he has as a result of being the head of his household. If you can't understand the attraction of this sort of relationship, don't miss this! |