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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. I'm just glad I found a site that makes me realize I'm not a freak for wanting to be dominated” “I was delighted to receive word of Taken In Hand. ... a very thoughtful and well-written group blog. ... I'm looking forward to reading through this blog the way I look forward to reading a new novel by a favorite author. It looks that good.” “Wow. This site is so amazing.” ““[Taken In Hand is] a wonderful website ... from a MaleDom/femsub perspective ... [I]t's about the interpersonal dynamics of loving relationships where the man is the boss. [I]t's assumed that both partners are in it because that's what they want and have chosen. Also, unlike many other ‘traditional marriage’ sites, it's not coming from any sort of biblical perspective. ... 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How to tell him/herI don't want to be a servant or slaveTaken In Hand is not about turning a woman into a servant or slave. She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!The casual observer might think that Taken In Hand readers are saying that they want to be taken or taken in hand against their will, but what is really going on here? An investigation of the psychology of consensual non-consent. Do you have a commanding presence?Do you command respect and obedience without even trying? Do you have natural authority, or would you have trouble controlling even a worm? If you don't have a commanding presence but wish you did, hit the read article link. I want... to be possessedScarlet has a red-hot message for her husband. I hope he's sitting down when he reads it: when Scarlet says she wants to be possessed, she really means it! No helpless hysterical heroines here!In this charming article, which I know will speak to lots of women, and help men understand how many women feel, Amber writes about her childhood irritation with helpless movie heroines, and about her later discovery that being submissive does not have to mean giving up your strong, independent, effective self. Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp?If you are in a new relationship, or have yet to find a man, and you want to be with a man who is lovingly dominant, you might like to consider this advice. What do you mean, you want to be taken in hand?!If you like the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship but you have had trouble explaining what you want, or even identifying clearly what you want, this article is for you! I want it all, and I want it now!The other day, I heard the Queen song, I want it all, and have not been able to get it out of my head since. Sometimes I am so aware of how much there is to feel and do and experience before it's game over, that it is difficult to be patient. I want it all, and I want it now! If this sounds like you, you won't want to miss this article! How I feel before, during and after being spankedIf you can't imagine why anyone would want to be spanked, and can't imagine what possible positive feelings it could occasion, hit the read article link. This powerful, poignant piece by Annie is very illuminating. Why you should not withhold spanking!If a woman finds the idea of being taken in hand erotic, how can taking her in hand also ’work’ to modify her behaviour? Spanking would be a reward, not a punishment! Wouldn't it be more efficient to withhold spanking? Nooooooooooo! Hit the read article link to find out why not! Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!Why is it that most conventional people find themselves settling for stale, lifeless relationships with unsatisfying sex, whereas people writing on Taken In Hand often mention that their desire for one another is greater than ever even after many years? I fear I have awoken a sleeping dragonTwo weeks ago, Caroline asked her husband to read Taken In Hand. He refused to discuss it and she thought he was absolutely opposed to the idea – until last night. Hands-on approachHoward Frank explains his gentle but firm hands-on approach with his wife, and talks about what he has discovered on this journey of increased connection and intimacy. Why a man might be reluctant and what to do about itAdvice for women who think that their men might be reluctant to take control and discipline them more seriously. It's like this, beloved: I need to be spankedA woman's letter to her hypothetical husband. Blush and Gary, by GaryMany of you have read Blush's beautiful articles about her fabulously loving and wildly passionate relationship with her husband, Gary. But what does Gary have to say about it? Could he possibly be as wonderful as Blush says he is? I am thrilled to be able to present Gary's side of the story here. And when you read it, I think you will agree that the answer to the question I have just asked is a resounding yes. How to break it to a new manJanet Hardy passes on the advice she received when she asked how to introduce a new man to what she wants in a relationship. Letter to a potential partnerPeople often ask, “How do I introduce this subject to a potential or new partner?” For some of us, this is very difficult. In this letter she wrote Larry before they got together, Kathy makes it look easy! The question is: what did you say in your profiles? Do you say what you want up-front and frighten everyone off, or do you save the shocking stuff for later? Comments, anyone? Ask for what you wantDaisy argues that asking for what you want doesn't necessarily mean you are being pushy, and if you don't ask, you might not get what you want. Moreover, the mere fact that the man has not thought of it first does not mean he won't be interested once he knows you are. Why men start and why they stopWhat is wrong with men? Have they completely lost the dominant, decisive, proactive, self-confident traits that we all consider masculine? The basic message of this superb article by Egghead is that they have not. Be upfront, think it through, and have the patience to step backSome very wise advice about how to introduce the subject in a new relationship, by Robin. Introducing the intimate control dynamicFascinating thoughts from Frank Nelson on introducing the intimate control dynamic in a new relationship, and on the challenges men face during this process. Where are all the strong men?Janet has tried dating New Men and has found them unexciting. She likes to be aware of the difference between her and her man. In this piece, she explains why. Take the Taken In Hand tourIf you are new to this site or you don't know which of the many fabulous articles to read next, you might like to take the Taken In Hand tour. The tour contains a selection of articles on the site, ordered such as to introduce the site and the ideas to new readers. At the foot of each article on the tour is a link to the beginning of the tour (this page) and one to the next article on the tour. 2003 Sep 22 - 11:29 | read article | permanent link
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