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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Being or owning a slave, enslavement; property, chattelAre your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?Don't waste your life looking for something you already have, if only you could see it. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?If you have a dog cage in your bedroom (but you don't own a dog), can your relationship be a Taken In Hand one? A man released from his pseudo-beta tormentThis is a fascinating account of Silverback's journey to the discovery of his real nature, via society-induced pseudo-beta behaviour, dark fantasies and guilt. Saying things for effectWhen a man says he doesn't care what the woman he loves wants, is he serious, or is he saying it for effect? This piece explains why you are less likely to hear so many statements said for effect in a Taken In Hand marriage than in some other kinds of relationships. (And no, this is not to say that Taken In Hand is better, merely to point out a difference!) Who wants a slave?Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’? Our journey through BDSM to Taken in HandOne woman's journey from what she describes as “kinky sex” to Taken In Hand. Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In HandKiva likes the fact that Taken In Hand relationships are enjoyable for both persons. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?Women sometimes say they want a Taken In Hand relationship but then when they actually start a relationship, seem afraid to give up control. If you are a man who is frustrated that your woman is not acting the way you think she should be acting, or if you are a woman who is being accused of not being submissive enough, not being feminine, or controlling with complaints, hit the read article link now! My life, my choiceChoosing to be in an unconventional relationship can be tough, but it can be well worth it. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Violence in the gardenThis piece is for all those whose desires and chosen paths in life attract disapproval from others. Ownership as bondingIn this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership. He owns it all...How do you feel about the idea of in some sense being owned by a man? Some bristle against the idea; others – like Blush – like it. Who says you have to be submissive?Women who are high dominance tend to attract lots of submissive men. What is a woman to do if she is strong and possibly even dominant in some sense, but she is drawn to men who are even more dominant than she is, and not to submissive men? Try to suppress her strength? Try to become more submissive? Try to act submissive even when she doesn't feel it? What do you think? Ever-deepening total loveBen and Clotos have been together for 33 years. In this article, Ben describes their unique relationship and their mutual surrender, and argues that “total ‘slavery’” leads to total freedom within total love. She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!The casual observer might think that Taken In Hand readers are saying that they want to be taken or taken in hand against their will, but what is really going on here? An investigation of the psychology of consensual non-consent. I want... to be possessedScarlet has a red-hot message for her husband. I hope he's sitting down when he reads it: when Scarlet says she wants to be possessed, she really means it! |