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Taken In Hand relationships are consensualA mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. The power of a woman who submits to her manDo not make the mistake of thinking that a woman in a Taken In Hand relationship is not powerful. She is very powerful, as Mike explains. Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?How in the world can you create a male-controlled relationship if you meet and get to know each other as equals? Is spanking always sexual?In a Taken In Hand relationship, is spanking always sexual? Or is it sometimes definitely not sexual? Yes, it's more on this long-running debate. (Try not to groan!) The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. When is implicit consent enough?To what extent do you think that consent for control should be explicit? Does it depend on the way control is expressed? What do you all think? Consent makes all the difference in the worldOne person's dream is another person's nightmare. The difference is consent, as this little story shows. From BDSM to Taken In HandKrosRogue is one of the many individuals who have arrived at Taken In Hand via BDSM. He says that he owes much to BDSM philosophy, which is, like Taken In Hand, based on primal desires derived from sadism, masochism, domination, and submission. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. The dance of consentMost consent-giving is done tacitly, through tiny non-verbal and indirect verbal signals, not directly. Sometimes a direct, clear yes or no is necessary, but especially in a long-term Taken In Hand relationship, it often isn't necessary. That does not mean there is not consent, as ConfusedofHomeCounties explains. Why is BDSM so popular?Why is BDSM so much more popular than Taken In Hand, and why is it that some BDSM folk are so disapproving of Taken In Hand? A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. Authority in a Taken In Hand relationshipAuthority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. Many Taken In Hand readers use consensual authority to enhance their relationship. She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!The casual observer might think that Taken In Hand readers are saying that they want to be taken or taken in hand against their will, but what is really going on here? An investigation of the psychology of consensual non-consent. Is there consent?When a man takes or takes a woman in hand and she seems to be resisting and complaining, is there consent? It depends. Being taken in hand is hot!If you feel no sexual arousal at all during serious disciplinary spankings, how can it possibly be erotic? And if it is, doesn't that mean that it is all just a kinky game, and not real? Hit the read article link for my answers to these thorny questions. Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone? |