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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Sexual exclusivity"No" means "take me"The aim of "No means no!" is to give men a simple way to avoid actually raping a woman. The problem is that no does not always mean no, and the denial of that reality makes it more likely that men will make mistakes than if that reality were acknowledged. Why is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. Is the idea of fairness causing trouble in your relationship?You won't want to miss this very important article by Ted. Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?If you have a dog cage in your bedroom (but you don't own a dog), can your relationship be a Taken In Hand one? Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? A deep and satisfying marriageKat and her husband made a vow to forsake all others until death do them part, and they have a deep and satisfying relationship in which their love continues to grow. Freedom or invested in a deep relationship?Do you like to keep your options open or put all your eggs in one basket? How we have stayed happily married for over 30 yearsLife is never perfect, but marriage is what you make it, and Kat and her husband evidently know what is important. How can I be sure he's monogamous?Or shouldn't that be: how can I be sure he's not promiscuous? An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... Giving each other what we needAurora on the peace and safety of a Taken In Hand relationship. Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?A glimpse at an article that has stayed with me for three years. 2005 Jul 19 - 09:00 | read article | permanent link
My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! What women wantThis is what I want. If you too are a woman, what do you want? Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. An alpha female bares her throat only to her mateA strong woman might want might well want to be cherished by a stronger man, and she might well not be generally submissive or want to be treated like a servant. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Taken In Hand - intimacy and romanceStephen on how Taken In Hand intimacy creates lasting romance. Shall we dance?Otter on Taken In Hand relationships and the 2004 film, Shall We Dance? My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Ownership as bondingIn this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership. What Taken In Hand is, and what it is notTaken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post! A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriageWhy, after many decades of marriage, would a man still find it necessary to discipline his wife? And why would she let him? Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. When rape is a giftIt is just about acceptable to speak of ravishing a woman, but the idea of taking a woman, or ‘raping’ her, is taboo and emotive. How could it possibly feel to a woman like a gift? And yet, many woman want this. You do not have to hit the read article link. Please don't do so if you might be upset. Only read this piece if this is not a difficult issue for you. How I turned the fantasy into realityAfter the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game. Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!Why is it that most conventional people find themselves settling for stale, lifeless relationships with unsatisfying sex, whereas people writing on Taken In Hand often mention that their desire for one another is greater than ever even after many years? |