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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about marriageAre you worth your weight in gold?Kat's husband is. Taken In Hand has changed our marriageHow has Taken In Hand changed your marriage? What women wantThis is what I want. If you too are a woman, what do you want? When is implicit consent enough?To what extent do you think that consent for control should be explicit? Does it depend on the way control is expressed? What do you all think? Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Wedded blissFor many couples, the move to a Taken In Hand relationship brings fewer arguments not because the woman is then silenced (she is not) but because there is more good feeling and intimacy in the relationship. How do you relate to one another publicly?Do you prefer to keep your power exchange private, and why? Do women want more feminine men?Not all women want men to be more “feminine”. Some of us prefer take-charge men. Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Real life leadership or rules and rigidity?Tevemer and her husband dropped the rules-based approach they adopted in the beginning – in favour of a more naturally-evolving real-life style of leadership. How we stopped fighting and became happier togetherA week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now. The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book reviewOne reader found this book helpful. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. Giving up control is not easyGiving up control to the degree Otter has done is really not easy, should not be rushed, and is not for everyone; but for Otter, ultimately, it has relieved stress. Greater humility, less defensivenessAnnie D. has been amazed to discover that Taken In Hand has made it easier for her to admit when she has been mistaken. Taken In Hand - intimacy and romanceStephen on how Taken In Hand intimacy creates lasting romance. A small but touching act of kindnessWhen Otter had a problem her husband came to the rescue. A touching account of a small but lovely act of kindness. The soothing effect of vowing to obeyAlmost four decades ago, Noone's wife shocked her peers by promising to obey. Some of her friends probably thought her out of her mind, but for her, this vow brought a deep sense of peace. My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Ownership as bondingIn this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership. Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriageWhy, after many decades of marriage, would a man still find it necessary to discipline his wife? And why would she let him? Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. From vague awareness to a beautiful relationshipDon't miss this lovely account by Lady K of her development from vague stirrings when she read Heinlein's I Will Fear No Evil to the beautiful Taken In Hand relationship she and her husband have now. My deep dark secretLike many Taken In Hand readers, Tasha has always felt different, and she had always feared that someone would discover her secret and react badly. Hit the read article link to find out what happened when she revealed her deep dark secret to her husband. Offering an olive branchNo one is perfect, so what do you do when you have behaved badly? Following my article, Reaching out by offering yourself, Issie told this story of an offering of her own. How I turned the fantasy into realityAfter the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game. Why does it work?Why does this kind of relationship work? Tevemer says that the more her husband asserts himself, the more she respects and desires him. Why does it work for you? Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!Why is it that most conventional people find themselves settling for stale, lifeless relationships with unsatisfying sex, whereas people writing on Taken In Hand often mention that their desire for one another is greater than ever even after many years? Liberated through submissionRead this review of Liberated Through Submission, by P. Bunny Wilson, or add your own review by clicking here and scrolling down to the ‘reply’ box. What you need to know about Taken In HandWhat is Taken In Hand about? A return to times past in which many women had no choice? Or stepping into a future free from prescriptions and proscriptions about the sort of relationships deemed acceptable? If you are in any doubt, hit the read article link now! |