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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... I do like the Taken In Hand focus on family and the focus that marriage is between one man and one woman. That is actually very important to me.” “[I]n Taken In Hand, I am enhancing and extending my power as a woman, and enriching my life and personality. I give up NOTHING, and gain the world.... [M]y perception of Taken In Hand is that there are few other venues that can compare for teaching men the responsible, healthy uses of power. It gives men skills and confidence they can use not just in their sexual relationships, but also with their children, in their professions, and out in the community. Taken In Hand requires a far higher level of courage, sacrifice, responsibility, and personal integrity than many so-called ‘doms’ will even think to aspire to.” “Taken In Hand is about having the man in charge because you like it like that, it's not about blind obedience or never having your own way about anything.” “I feel the best spanking site is Taken in Hand. 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[...] For women who have longed for a relationship such as this and have no idea where to start, this is a great site for you. For men that want to better understand the whole concept from a women’s point of view, this site is a must read.” “It's a great site.” “If you think my perspective on dating isn't politically correct you should go read Taken In Hand. [It has] posts with titles like, When rape is a gift. You go, girl. Defy those hairy-armpitted feminists and enjoy yourself. :)” “great site.” “There are lots of websites for people in the BDSM, D/s, DD (domestic discipline) and spanking communities. There are websites for people who belong to religions that advocate male-head-of-household marriage. There are even websites for Christians who are interested in BDSM. But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. 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Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
Articles by menNever do without sex againAs DG says, I have been asking men to write on the subject of what they get out of their Taken In Hand relationships, and why other men might want to do the same. For DG's rather explosive answer, hit the read article link now. It's not about blame, so forget ‘fairness’!Frank Nelson's insights about the trouble people get into when they think in terms of ‘fairness’. Does it have to hurt to be Taken In Hand?In this beautifully-written article, Jeff explains that Taken In Hand trusting another to care for you most intimately, and caring enough for another that they trust you with their most intimate self. The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critiqueSome interesting criticisms of Laura Doyle's book, The Surrendered Wife. About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawalIn this fascinating article about love and life, inspired by the film, About Schmidt, Stephen relates some vital insights he has gleaned over the years. Ever-deepening total loveBen and Clotos have been together for 33 years. In this article, Ben describes their unique relationship and their mutual surrender, and argues that “total ‘slavery’” leads to total freedom within total love. What does the man get out of it? Many things!In this fascinating article, Random frankly relates what he gets out of his relationship with J. Definitely one to show a man if you want to introduce him to the idea of Taken In Hand style relationships! Spanking as connectionIn this warm exploration of the idea of spanking for connection, Max Maximovich argues that to be happy in life, we must learn what our true nature is and follow it in the best and most honest way we know how. A new journeySam and Missy have been happily married for 23 years, but Sam had always had the feeling that something was missing, both within himself and in the marriage. Then he discovered Taken In Hand... What's in it for the man? Freedom!Random paints a powerful word picture of the freeing, liberated feeling he has as a result of being the head of his household. If you can't understand the attraction of this sort of relationship, don't miss this! The appeal of a very feminine womanFor Random, part of the appeal of taking a woman in hand is connected with her femininity. In this piece, he explains why he finds feminine women particularly appealing. Why I, a dominant man, prefer a strong womanYou might think that a dominant man would want an obedient, placid, weak, submissive woman. Random blows that idea out of the water with this passionate piece about his preference for a strong woman. How I turned the fantasy into realityAfter the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game. SafeThis powerful, poignant piece by Aron was inspired by a comment by Susie to the effect that she would rather be with a dominant man who never spanks her than a non-dominant man who does. Making it explicit versus keeping it implicitRandom raises the interesting issue of the costs and benefits of making your relationship-related wishes explicit or keeping things implicit. Lots to think about here! The difference between dominant and controllingNo one wants a controlling partner, but many want a dominant one. What is the difference? Hands-on approachHoward Frank explains his gentle but firm hands-on approach with his wife, and talks about what he has discovered on this journey of increased connection and intimacy. ObedienceRight from the beginning of their relationship, Stephen's wife wanted him to wear the trousers. She was not interested in a relationship based on so-called equality. She expects to be obedient. To her, obedience is not only a matter of respect for me and our relationship, it adds an erotic charge to daily life. Yes, obedience is sexy. It is romantic. It creates passion! The pathAiden on the natural unity of masculine dominance and feminine submission. The dual failures of menAlthough rarely explicit, a woman will frequently give implicit permission to a man to do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship together. She then expects him to act on her permission... If the man fails to act in a timely fashion, whatever love the woman has for him will, in time, crumble into a loathing for which there is no human cure. Total obedience?Do you think that the woman should be obedient at all times, in the sense that, aside from playful disobedience, she obeys without question come what may? Laying the groundwork for other possibilitiesA good relationship makes it easier to be a better parent, a better friend, and a caring member of a larger community. |