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Articles by menAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wiselyM.D. on when not to forcibly take your wife, even if you have her consent to take her whenever you want. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. How to find out if a man wants a Taken in Hand relationshipHow can women tell if a man might be open to a Taken In Hand relationship? Sleeping positions, rituals and controlAnother charming piece by CarlF. Why is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Why the "Wow!"?When couples discover Taken In Hand and their relationship starts to evolve in this direction, they typically describe it as mind-blowingly thrilling. They tend to be astonished by how right it feels, even in their first faltering experimental steps. Why do so many couples experience this “Wow!”? Here is one person's answer. What is your answer? Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. The power of the feminine "please"Please please please could I persuade you to write more articles for Taken In Hand, CarlF? :-) Exercise authoritySometimes the relationship needs a spanking, in which case it might be a mistake to wait for a ‘good reason’, as CarlF so rightly says. Why does physically taking your wife in hand work?Some ideas about why a man taking his wife in hand works. See also this article: Why you should not withhold spanking!. A dominant man brainwashed into submissionJust as some women grow up with the idea that the desire to live under the control of a man is unacceptable and needs to be overcome, some men also grow up with the idea that the desire to be in control in a relationship is unacceptable and needs to be overcome. This website aims to promote real choice, by letting it be known that there are thousands and thousands and thousands of happy, stable, well-adjusted Taken In Hand couples out there. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. Is the idea of fairness causing trouble in your relationship?You won't want to miss this very important article by Ted. Why my wife needs to be spankedAdam explains why he thinks his wife needs to be spanked. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. A happy end to marital deadlockIf your marriage is charactised by cold silences and angry fights or a lot of unhappiness, is there any way Taken In Hand might save it? Alpha Husband thinks Taken In Hand can indeed solve the problem. I think it is possible, but not unless both spouses make the effort to turn towards each other. It can't be all on the man. The woman needs to make an effort too. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? Dominance through sustained eye contactIt's all in a glance. Getting your rocks offA brilliant article by VelvetHammer. Don't frighten the horsesA post by new writer, Velvet Hammer. Can you tell a submissive woman?Don't miss this fun piece by Carl. Where these men come from...Where do the wonderful men who are in Taken In Hand relationships come from? Two different women...What's wrong with monogamy? When did self-control and commitment become a bad thing? She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. Nostalgic? Not a bit!It’s sometimes suggested, not only by our critics but also by avid Taken in Hand fanatics, that what we’re about is a return to the 1950s. But as Carl argues, our ideas aren't located anywhere near the 1950s: they're very 21st century indeed. A smile manI was once struck by the way an elderly woman's face lit up and became beautiful when she smiled. (And no, she did not have the gleeming white teeth of an American TV presenter!) Superficially non-consensual but deeply consensualThere are couples who eschew consensual non-consent, but many have a strong preference to be in a relationship in which force is sometimes used. Mr Fondman's wife is such a person, as am I. For my own explanation of the idea of consensual non-consent, see this series. Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?If you are a man wanting to find a woman with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, you won't want to miss this article by Jeff! A few thoughts on cryingWhile some women never cry when given a thrashing, and never want to, others long for the release of tension that a good cry represents, yet can't cry. If you are such a woman, or if you are a man whose wife can't cry, this article might help. Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. How Taken in Hand has transformed my wifeJerome once questioned whether he had married the right woman. Then his wife found Taken In Hand, and everything changed for the better. Needing my wifeSam has his wife Missy very much in hand, and she has him very much in heart. Loving, supportive and kind controlA man can feel the need to be in control without feeling any inclination for that control to be oppressive or in any way unpleasant for the woman he loves. Taking herMissy is sexually available to Sam all the time, and he explains how that works so well for them. A man in charge needs to be firm and steadyStephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand. Attracting girls as a nice guy with a capacity for violenceIt is often said that a nice guy doesn't get the girl, but HoleInTheSoul's conclusions seem closer to the truth. Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. Bonded by rapeWhy does this disturbing idea have such a hold over so many women? And is it only women, or does it stir the odd man here and there, too? |