What is the difference between being submissive (if you're a woman) on the one hand, and being Taken In Hand on the other? Or is there any difference? It depends whom you ask!

Louise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness.

What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship?

I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only.

Strange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship.

Carlf with some advice for men about taking a strong woman in hand.

Babydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship.

For Carlf's timely reminder that this whole thing is supposed to be a source of pleasure, not a sacrifice, hit the read article now!

Carlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress.

If a woman disobeys her man, Horst argues, the man should assume that he is at least partly at fault.

It is not the act of spanking in itself that causes such wonderful changes when couples move into a Taken In Hand relationship, it is the underlying psychological effects on both partners, as Louise's very nice example shows.

This one is for all those who like or are curious about that most pure of implements, the switch.

This brilliant article explains the need many Taken In Hand women feel to be decisively conquered by their man, and why less resistant-sounding forms of submission leave many women cold despite the fact that they do indeed want to submit to a man.

What is a submissive alpha female (or an “alpha submissive” woman, as a reader asked)? DeeMarie has the answer!

Why is BDSM so much more popular than Taken In Hand, and why is it that some BDSM folk are so disapproving of Taken In Hand?

KrosRogue's account of the demise of a recent relationship and what lesson he has drawn from this experience.

Is it true that a good man would not get rough with a woman who likes that? Or that women who want to be dominated are misguided and naïve and will end up getting abused? Or that they should settle for a bit of spanking, DD, or BDSM instead?

In this fabulous article, DeeMarie argues that while love and fear might be incompatible emotions for some people, for others those two things are perfectly compatible.

Not all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge.

If you can't understand why any woman would enjoy being controlled by her man, or you suspect that such a woman must be weak, misguided or crazy, you have to read this article!

In this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership.

Separating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?!

If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now!

Which do you think should come first? The control by the man – as in bringing the woman to submission – or the woman's submission? As with everything else, it probably depends on the individuals concerned.

Can two naturally dominant individuals have a good relationship, as I have argued, or not? This very interesting piece addresses the issue from a slightly different perspective.

Many readers find the idea of control through sheer physical force exciting, but in this piece, Louise points out that it is the psychological control that her husband has over her (with his authoritative manner) that really excites her. (Note to Taken In Hand writers and potential writers: I'd like to put up more articles exploring the psychology of control (whether expressed physically forcefully or otherwise) should anyone feel like submitting an article or three.)

Many women have little or no interest in being spanked but would enjoy being overpowered physically by a man. Who hasn't enjoyed rough-and-tumble ‘wrestling’, pillow-fighting, or tickling with a man who is much stronger?! So for those who are interested, here are some imaginitive physically forceful ways of exerting control.

In this fascinating piece, DeeMarie considers different definitions of the word “violence”, some appropriate, others entirely inappropriate in the context of Taken In Hand.

More thoughts about dominant men and the mistake some insecure men make in thinking that being dominant means being right, superior, better than women.

Taken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post!

In a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand.

This author understands the desire many women feel to be brought to submission rather than handing it to a man on a plate. He does not make clear (and perhaps even disagrees) that strength/weakness is independent of dominance/submission; nevertheless, this is a piece that will speak to many readers.

Adam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements.

Some people spend so much time trying to analyse their relationships by the book and have a relationship by the book that they fail to meet one another's individual needs.

Is it true that more dominant women necessarily prefer submissive men? If we are to believe some research done by Maslow in the 1930s and early ’40s, no! In fact, Maslow is reported to have concluded that whether a woman is what he called “high dominance”, “medium dominance”, or “low dominance”, she wants a man who is a little more dominant than she is.

Why would a man want to (consensually) rape the woman he loves? And why would she want him to? And why call it “rape” if it is consensual? Here is Aiden's poetic answer. Please do not hit the read article link unless rape is not a difficult issue for you.

In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee?

Don't miss this superb piece by Max Maximovich, whose laid-back dominance helps the woman he loves become her truest self. Beautiful. Please write more, Max!

This brilliant piece should have been on the front page long ago. Melanie's description of the wrestling with forbidden desires that she went through on her way to bliss will strike a chord with many, many readers. Please write more articles, Melanie!

This powerful article will thrill women who crave a man's control. Such women know that it is, as the writer says, sometimes necessary to “get beyond the polite and tasteful, and into the rape aspect of discipline.”