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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Articles about male dominanceNarcissistic dominance vs Taken In Hand dominanceHealthy dominance vs narcissistic dominance. Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In HandKiva likes the fact that Taken In Hand relationships are enjoyable for both persons. Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. Sublimated desiresMany modern women have suppressed their deep desire for a male-led relationship because of societal pressure to prefer an ‘equal’ relationship. This may explain the massive growth in BDSM erotica aimed at submissive women. That it is not safe to admit to wanting or being in a Taken In Hand relationship may also explain why so many women have turned to BDSM, which bends over backwards to be non-sexist and pansexual. Alternative therapyWarning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! Getting it right takes timeWhen people discover Taken In Hand they often want to jump straight in at the deep end and make radical changes in their marriages. It really isn't that easy. It takes time and patience and lots of mistakes along the way. Thinking of it more as evolutionary changes rather than revolutionary changes is more realistic. Alpha males and the women who love themLaura on what she loves about real alpha males. Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?Women sometimes say they want a Taken In Hand relationship but then when they actually start a relationship, seem afraid to give up control. If you are a man who is frustrated that your woman is not acting the way you think she should be acting, or if you are a woman who is being accused of not being submissive enough, not being feminine, or controlling with complaints, hit the read article link now! A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. Barbie is the doll, Ken is just an accessory.A timely warning that not everyone is ready for a Taken In Hand relationship, and especially not one involving corporal punishment. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! First there were the boys... then there was BobbyMost men were intimidated by Bella. But not Bobby. Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Can you be in charge without turning into her mother?Mistakes are common when couples change the basis of their relationship, so it is wise to take it slowly and be alert for signs that there is a problem. Assume that you will have to make changes as you go along. Those who are flexible and open to making changes are likely to do better. Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. Respect and responsibilityIf you are a woman, have you ever felt uncomfortable dating a man who expects you to serve him? Have you sometimes been a bit too giving? What do you think about this quote from Pat Allen's book Getting to “I Do”?: “A masculine-energy man does not marry a woman who gives to him, unless he is a “little boy” who wants to be mothered. A masculine man marries a feminine woman who is available to receive from him, who respects him for giving, and who knows how to give back to reward him but always a little less than she gets. [...] Masculine men like problems and challenges. They like the chase. “Little boys” like Mama to do it for them; they don't want you to ask them for anything at all.” (p. 59-60, Chapter 4, Is giving masculine or feminine?) When is implicit consent enough?To what extent do you think that consent for control should be explicit? Does it depend on the way control is expressed? What do you all think? Consent makes all the difference in the worldOne person's dream is another person's nightmare. The difference is consent, as this little story shows. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Do women want more feminine men?Not all women want men to be more “feminine”. Some of us prefer take-charge men. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Real life leadership or rules and rigidity?Tevemer and her husband dropped the rules-based approach they adopted in the beginning – in favour of a more naturally-evolving real-life style of leadership. Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?It is often said that a man should not need to get physical to remain in charge of his woman. Tevemer points out the flaws in this idea. On being a manA man must have the capacity to look beyond himself. Giving up control is not easyGiving up control to the degree Otter has done is really not easy, should not be rushed, and is not for everyone; but for Otter, ultimately, it has relieved stress. Consent, control, connectionWithout control and consent to that control, for many Taken In Hand people there is no erotic connection and nothing to feed the relationship. A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!It is often the strongest, most fiesty women who want to be taken in hand. Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked?In a Taken In Hand relationship, the woman wholeheartedly consents to being under the man's authority, but consent can be revoked. Does that make the authority any less real? We're not all submissive!Sometimes, being stuck with someone else's ill-fitting label can be a real drag. If you don't like to be labelled “submissive”, others should respect that. A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose againstFor some men, the ideal relationship would be with a strong, independent, fiesty woman... who wants an even stronger man. Have you found a proper balance?Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy. |