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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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DD - domestic disciplineAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. DD relationships - the view of a mental health professionalAlthough we seem to have been attracting the attention of a number of individuals incensed by the fact that there are several doctors, psychologists, social workers and other mental health clinicians writing for this site, here is yet another person in the field who has something sensible to say about the kinds of relationships discussed here. A mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. A childhood memoryDon't miss Princess4rev's charming account of a childhood memory jogged by reading this site. Exercise authoritySometimes the relationship needs a spanking, in which case it might be a mistake to wait for a ‘good reason’, as CarlF so rightly says. Setting the record straight about punishment spankingLouise concisely articulates how punishment spanking works for her and her husband and other Taken In Hand couples whose relationships have this feature. Why my wife needs to be spankedAdam explains why he thinks his wife needs to be spanked. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. It's not because he's infallibleIn Taken In Hand relationships in which there is corporal punishment, it is all one way: husband spanking wife. People often ask if this means we think the man is infallible or the woman inferior. In her inimitable way, Louise sets the record straight. Imagining my marriage as one long road-tripWanna's husband is the driver, but not a slave driver. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. Back in the swing of thingsIt had been two months since Kat was last physically taken in hand... A few thoughts on cryingWhile some women never cry when given a thrashing, and never want to, others long for the release of tension that a good cry represents, yet can't cry. If you are such a woman, or if you are a man whose wife can't cry, this article might help. Under new management... and loving it! Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. How to read this siteWorried by something you have read on this site? Here is how to interpret what you read here. Spanking in angerNot every man loses control when angry, and not every woman is terrified by being spanked in anger. For some couples in some situations, it is a good idea, as Louise explains. Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a reviewLouise reports on this interesting little book from 1961. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. Not a lower-case girlWhy Coryman's girl doesn't call him him sir, eat out of a dog bowl, wear a collar or write her name in lower-case. A beginners' guide to spankingWhat beginners might want to know about taking a woman in hand by spanking her. Si vis pacem, para bellumIf you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance. Saying things for effectWhen a man says he doesn't care what the woman he loves wants, is he serious, or is he saying it for effect? This piece explains why you are less likely to hear so many statements said for effect in a Taken In Hand marriage than in some other kinds of relationships. (And no, this is not to say that Taken In Hand is better, merely to point out a difference!) Is spanking always sexual?In a Taken In Hand relationship, is spanking always sexual? Or is it sometimes definitely not sexual? Yes, it's more on this long-running debate. (Try not to groan!) Our journey through BDSM to Taken in HandOne woman's journey from what she describes as “kinky sex” to Taken In Hand. Women who take responsibility for their own actionsWomen who take responsibility for their risk and who expect mistakes to happen are a better bet than those who don't. Yes, I know: it sounds obvious, doesn't it? But it appears not to be obvious to all men. Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. A lifetime of denial endsBlueRose calls it a lifetime of denial, but in some cases it is just an inability to pinpoint what we want. (I'm still working on it, myself!) In other cases, the denial is functional and important because the psychological autonomy of the person is too fragile at that time to handle a power exchange relationship. Alternative therapyWarning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. I love obeying my husbandTabatha was delighted to discover that Taken In Hand is not about abuse. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! On being the servant-leader in my relationshipStephen keeps in mind the “servant” bit of “servant-leader”. No wonder his wife spoils him! Alpha males and the women who love themLaura on what she loves about real alpha males. |