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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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[...] For women who have longed for a relationship such as this and have no idea where to start, this is a great site for you. For men that want to better understand the whole concept from a women’s point of view, this site is a must read.” “It's a great site.” “If you think my perspective on dating isn't politically correct you should go read Taken In Hand. [It has] posts with titles like, When rape is a gift. You go, girl. Defy those hairy-armpitted feminists and enjoy yourself. :)” “great site.” “There are lots of websites for people in the BDSM, D/s, DD (domestic discipline) and spanking communities. There are websites for people who belong to religions that advocate male-head-of-household marriage. There are even websites for Christians who are interested in BDSM. But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. 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Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
Introductory articlesQuiet authoritySassy on what it means for a man to have quiet authority. White hot intensity and boundless joyBlush on why she likes submission – the power she feels in being loved this intensely, the incredible connection. Don't go into your cave, get out your preferred implement!An impassioned plea to men to stop going into their cave and start getting out the wooden spoon. Tradition, feminism, Victoria and AlbertThe phrase taken in hand comes from the expressed sentiment that there are times in a woman's life when a man needs to take her in hand and straighten her out. Where are all the strong men?Janet has tried dating New Men and has found them unexciting. She likes to be aware of the difference between her and her man. In this piece, she explains why. Thanks for giving me hopeWanting this lifestyle so much that it has become a physical need...a pain that grabs me every day...is something that I face and that I hope will not last much longer. Some days I want to give up on ever finding anyone who could take me on... Laying the groundwork for other possibilitiesA good relationship makes it easier to be a better parent, a better friend, and a caring member of a larger community. What you need to know about Taken In HandWhat is Taken In Hand about? A return to times past in which many women had no choice? Or stepping into a future free from prescriptions and proscriptions about the sort of relationships deemed acceptable? If you are in any doubt, hit the read article link now! Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone? Why are Taken In Hand relationships so intimate and connected?How is it that those drawn to the Taken In Hand relationship tend to find that their relationship becomes more connected and intimate when they begin to move into a Taken In Hand relationship? How do I know whether Taken In Hand is right for me?How do I know whether Taken In Hand is right for me? Is Taken In Hand a political matter?Is Taken In Hand a political matter? Why do some women want to be taken in hand?Why do some women want to be taken in hand? Why do some men want to take their woman in hand?Why do some men want to take their woman in hand? Is this like The Stepford Wives?Is this like The Stepford Wives? Is Taken In Hand infantalising for the woman?Is Taken In Hand infantalising for the woman? Is Taken In Hand about pretending to be something you're not?Is Taken In Hand about pretending to be something you're not? Isn't being in charge just a mild form of being controlling/abusive?Isn't being in charge or in control just a mild form of being controlling/abusive? Does the man have to be perfect to take the woman in hand?Does the man have to be perfect to take the woman in hand? 2003 Sep 22 - 22:49 | read article | permanent link
What if the man makes a mistake?What if the man makes a mistake? 2003 Sep 22 - 22:48 | read article | permanent link
Why does Taken In Hand make spouses more attracted to each other?For the first time in my life, I don't feel restless, trapped, or tempted to have an affair. Why is my wife so much more attractive to me now we have a Taken In Hand relationship? Does the fact that the Taken In Hand woman is subordinate mean that she is a lesser person?Does the fact that the Taken In Hand woman is subordinate mean that she is a lesser person? Is Taken In Hand a panacea?Is Taken In Hand a panacea? Is Taken In Hand a sexual kink?Is Taken In Hand a sexual kink? Is Taken In Hand about dominance and submission?Is Taken In Hand about dominance and submission? Is Taken In Hand about spanking?Is Taken In Hand about spanking? Is Taken In Hand about discipline?Is Taken In Hand about discipline? Is Taken In Hand about whips and chains and bedroom games?Is Taken In Hand about whips and chains and bedroom games? Is Taken In Hand legal?Is Taken In Hand legal? Is Taken In Hand abusive?Is Taken In Hand abusive? I don't consider myself submissive. Can I still be taken in hand?I don't consider myself submissive. Can I still be taken in hand? Do you have to be a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal to take a woman in hand?Do you have to be a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal to take a woman in hand? Can a man who believes in equal rights for women take his woman in hand?I am a good, decent fellow who believes strongly in consent and equal rights for women. Is Taken In Hand for me? How can I stop feeling guilty about wanting to be in charge in a relationship?How can I stop feeling guilty about wanting to be in charge in a relationship? How can Taken In Hand be consistent with the idea of individual freedom?I strongly believe in individual freedom. How can Taken In Hand be consistent with this idea? Is the man seen as better than the woman in Taken In Hand?Is the man seen as better than the woman in Taken In Hand? Is Taken In Hand more natural than other kinds of relationship?Is Taken In Hand ‘the natural order’? Is it a ‘biological imperative’? Is the desire for a male-led relationship in the genes? Is Taken In Hand more ‘natural’ than other kinds of relationship? To what extent do you justify Taken In Hand on the basis of sociobiological arguments? How do we get started?We want to change our relationship from an ordinary conventional one to a male-led one. How do we get started? What's wrong with focusing on discipline?What's wrong with focusing on discipline? How do I find a man who will take me in hand?How do I find a man who will take me in hand? |