Many women badly want to be taken in hand but are too embarrassed to mention this desire to a man. I hope that the existence of this website might help.

For Carlf's timely reminder that this whole thing is supposed to be a source of pleasure, not a sacrifice, hit the read article now!

Carlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress.

Fosti argues that it is important for the man in a Taken In Hand relationship to keep an open channel of communication, so that the woman feels ‘heard’.

A relationship that exists purely in your own mind and not in active engagement with the other person is not a relationship, it is a fantasy. Fantasy is great, but it is not a relationship; and despising yourself for needing attention is not the answer.

One of the greatest gifts of being in a Taken In Hand relationship has been, for Charlotte, that she now feels more able to be open and honest about how she is feeling.

If a woman disobeys her man, Horst argues, the man should assume that he is at least partly at fault.

Sharon explains that in a Taken In Hand relationship each spouse has not a weapon to use against the other, but the key to his or her heart.

It is not the act of spanking in itself that causes such wonderful changes when couples move into a Taken In Hand relationship, it is the underlying psychological effects on both partners, as Louise's very nice example shows.

Forty-something wife is so happy in her Taken In Hand relationship that she wonders why it took them 20 years to get here.

Most consent-giving is done tacitly, through tiny non-verbal and indirect verbal signals, not directly. Sometimes a direct, clear yes or no is necessary, but especially in a long-term Taken In Hand relationship, it often isn't necessary. That does not mean there is not consent, as ConfusedofHomeCounties explains.

This brilliant article explains the need many Taken In Hand women feel to be decisively conquered by their man, and why less resistant-sounding forms of submission leave many women cold despite the fact that they do indeed want to submit to a man.

This succinct piece is about how Taken In Hand relationship etiquette paradoxically empowers a woman to express her female strength.

Why is BDSM so much more popular than Taken In Hand, and why is it that some BDSM folk are so disapproving of Taken In Hand?

To read this charming article about Sam's discovery of what it means to know a woman, hit the read article link now!

Noone sounds a gentle note of caution in regard to the formalism of BDSM rituals and the laundry lists of rules and consequences that some DD people seem to favour.

To read this fascinating account of how KrosRogue came to realise that he wants to be in control, hit the read article link now!

Before Louise's husband took control in their relationship, she would make herself available to him even when she did not feel in the mood. Now, she never doesn't want him.

When Tevemer's husband took control in their relationship, Tevemer found that she wanted to please him in a way that she never had before.

What does it really mean to cherish a man? Stephen evidently feels very cherished by his wife.

Bramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights.

Not all Taken In Hand relationships involve pain, punishment, spanking. Some work perfectly well with more subtle forms of control. Bramble's husband's authority is quiet, but he is most definitely in charge.

Blush gently suggests that if you are single and looking, the most important quality to look for is not dominance but love.

If you can't understand why any woman would enjoy being controlled by her man, or you suspect that such a woman must be weak, misguided or crazy, you have to read this article!

Separating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?!

If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now!

Many readers find the idea of control through sheer physical force exciting, but in this piece, Louise points out that it is the psychological control that her husband has over her (with his authoritative manner) that really excites her. (Note to Taken In Hand writers and potential writers: I'd like to put up more articles exploring the psychology of control (whether expressed physically forcefully or otherwise) should anyone feel like submitting an article or three.)

In this fascinating piece, DeeMarie considers different definitions of the word “violence”, some appropriate, others entirely inappropriate in the context of Taken In Hand.

An account of a very nice Taken In Hand moment in which Louise's husband gently took her choice of clothing in hand without making her want to punch him in the face or file for divorce.

Taken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post!

Louise used to think that making changes to please her husband would be to diminish herself. She was not going to change! To find out what changed her mind and what happened when she changed her policy, hit the read article link now!

Eric says he wants neither a dominant nor a submissive woman. What he wants is what he describes as a “resistant” woman. To find out what he means by that, hit the read article link now!

This short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship.

Some people spend so much time trying to analyse their relationships by the book and have a relationship by the book that they fail to meet one another's individual needs.

Is it true that more dominant women necessarily prefer submissive men? If we are to believe some research done by Maslow in the 1930s and early ’40s, no! In fact, Maslow is reported to have concluded that whether a woman is what he called “high dominance”, “medium dominance”, or “low dominance”, she wants a man who is a little more dominant than she is.

In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee?

Don't miss this superb piece by Max Maximovich, whose laid-back dominance helps the woman he loves become her truest self. Beautiful. Please write more, Max!

This brilliant piece should have been on the front page long ago. Melanie's description of the wrestling with forbidden desires that she went through on her way to bliss will strike a chord with many, many readers. Please write more articles, Melanie!

This lyrical article expresses deep insights into what it means to be taken in hand, and how being taken in hand can help a woman become who she truly is. Breathtaking.

Women who are high dominance tend to attract lots of submissive men. What is a woman to do if she is strong and possibly even dominant in some sense, but she is drawn to men who are even more dominant than she is, and not to submissive men? Try to suppress her strength? Try to become more submissive? Try to act submissive even when she doesn't feel it? What do you think?