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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Solving problemsCorrecting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Taken out of my anguishMany readers will identify with Dynomite's charming article. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. A happy end to marital deadlockIf your marriage is charactised by cold silences and angry fights or a lot of unhappiness, is there any way Taken In Hand might save it? Alpha Husband thinks Taken In Hand can indeed solve the problem. I think it is possible, but not unless both spouses make the effort to turn towards each other. It can't be all on the man. The woman needs to make an effort too. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. Under new management... and loving it! Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?That's what you think. But it might be that you are inadvertently undermining him because you cannot see the man he is. You may think this is definitely not the case, but it is worth taking steps to make sure that it is not you who are the barrier to change. Si vis pacem, para bellumIf you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! Take her in hand without lifting a fingerForty-something wife gives an example of how Taken In Hand has worked to improve her marriage. An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... Coming unravelled (or not)Moving house, and especially to a completely new area, can make some marriages come unravelled. But if the two of you handle conflict like this couple... Is he driving you mad?Does your husband's driving style drive you mad? If so, hit the read article now. Keep your sense of humour!For some couples Taken In Hand has the effect of making it possible to laugh in situations that would once have been sources of tension. Listening isn't weakMen sometimes (understandably!) fear looking weak or being manipulated so much that they are intransigent and don't listen when it would really be better if they did. What is a man to do? Getting it right takes timeWhen people discover Taken In Hand they often want to jump straight in at the deep end and make radical changes in their marriages. It really isn't that easy. It takes time and patience and lots of mistakes along the way. Thinking of it more as evolutionary changes rather than revolutionary changes is more realistic. Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?Women sometimes say they want a Taken In Hand relationship but then when they actually start a relationship, seem afraid to give up control. If you are a man who is frustrated that your woman is not acting the way you think she should be acting, or if you are a woman who is being accused of not being submissive enough, not being feminine, or controlling with complaints, hit the read article link now! Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now! A small but touching act of kindnessWhen Otter had a problem her husband came to the rescue. A touching account of a small but lovely act of kindness. It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. How my husband makes me meltLouise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness. Practical hints for men - times of stressCarlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress. Domestic discipline (DD)What is the difference between Taken In Hand and DD (domestic discipline)? It is a mainly just a difference of focus. Authority in a Taken In Hand relationshipAuthority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. Many Taken In Hand readers use consensual authority to enhance their relationship. Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. Why is real punishment spanking erotic?Many Taken In Hand folk do not use physical discipline or punishment in their relationship. But for those who do, this series of articles explains some otherwise puzzling facts and paradoxes. 2004 Feb 22 - 08:27 | read article | permanent link
Dealing with a man who doesn't do as he's toldIf your man won't do as he's told, it is time to stop nagging and start taking action. You do not have to allow yourself to be put into the position of being a nagging wife. There are better ways of solving problems – ways that will empower you without destroying your relationship. |