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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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NooneAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. Why the "Wow!"?When couples discover Taken In Hand and their relationship starts to evolve in this direction, they typically describe it as mind-blowingly thrilling. They tend to be astonished by how right it feels, even in their first faltering experimental steps. Why do so many couples experience this “Wow!”? Here is one person's answer. What is your answer? A few thoughts on cryingWhile some women never cry when given a thrashing, and never want to, others long for the release of tension that a good cry represents, yet can't cry. If you are such a woman, or if you are a man whose wife can't cry, this article might help. What is the alpha male's secret?Is it all in the voice? Flying by the seat of your pantsLove is more visceral than cerebral. It is more flying by the seat of one's pants than filing a flight plan. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? Who wants a slave?Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’? Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. What women wantThis is what I want. If you too are a woman, what do you want? When is implicit consent enough?To what extent do you think that consent for control should be explicit? Does it depend on the way control is expressed? What do you all think? Four levels of spankingNoone on the four levels of spanking. Do women want more feminine men?Not all women want men to be more “feminine”. Some of us prefer take-charge men. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. On being a manA man must have the capacity to look beyond himself. Have you found a proper balance?Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy. Virtues of the lowly switchThis one is for all those who like or are curious about that most pure of implements, the switch. PUT women in their placeSome good advice for dominant men about how to handle a Taken In Hand woman. (Fun title, Noone!) BDSM rituals and rule-bound relationshipsNoone sounds a gentle note of caution in regard to the formalism of BDSM rituals and the laundry lists of rules and consequences that some DD people seem to favour. Getting beyond rules; peeking behind the veilNoone on what is going on behind the Taken In Hand veil, and on getting beyond the novice's rule-bound approach. The soothing effect of vowing to obeyAlmost four decades ago, Noone's wife shocked her peers by promising to obey. Some of her friends probably thought her out of her mind, but for her, this vow brought a deep sense of peace. Using the word “love” in writing about relationshipsNoone explains that to avoid praising love is not to avoid love. Ownership as bondingIn this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership. Which comes first? Dominance or submission?Which do you think should come first? The control by the man – as in bringing the woman to submission – or the woman's submission? As with everything else, it probably depends on the individuals concerned. CommunicationThis short and sweet piece is about the flourishing of communication in a Taken In Hand relationship. Accommodating needs can't be done by the bookSome people spend so much time trying to analyse their relationships by the book and have a relationship by the book that they fail to meet one another's individual needs. Why would a women want to be spanked?In the absence of any noticeable psychological disorder or mind-altering substances, why would an intelligent woman want to be spanked? Even more mind-boggling, why would a grown woman who doesn't fantasise about being a little girl want to be spanked naked over her man's knee? Don't forget your whipThis powerful article will thrill women who crave a man's control. Such women know that it is, as the writer says, sometimes necessary to “get beyond the polite and tasteful, and into the rape aspect of discipline.” Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriageWhy, after many decades of marriage, would a man still find it necessary to discipline his wife? And why would she let him? Knights earn the nameThis lyrical article expresses deep insights into what it means to be taken in hand, and how being taken in hand can help a woman become who she truly is. Breathtaking. Looking into the mirror of lifeIn this beautiful piece about attitudes to emotional baggage, Noone gently suggests that a little humility might be in order. The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critiqueSome interesting criticisms of Laura Doyle's book, The Surrendered Wife. Persuading him to spank youWhy are so many men reluctant to take a woman in hand, and what can you do to persuade your man to do so? Noone has some ideas that might help. The dual failures of menAlthough rarely explicit, a woman will frequently give implicit permission to a man to do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship together. She then expects him to act on her permission... If the man fails to act in a timely fashion, whatever love the woman has for him will, in time, crumble into a loathing for which there is no human cure. Tradition, feminism, Victoria and AlbertThe phrase taken in hand comes from the expressed sentiment that there are times in a woman's life when a man needs to take her in hand and straighten her out. |