Being sensitive to each other's needs and wishes

How we stopped fighting and became happier together

A week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now.

Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?

A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now!

The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book review

One reader found this book helpful.

Acts of love

What kind of service does every able-bodied person whose relationships are good give loved ones? Love-based service.

Taken In Hand means different things to different people

There is a lot to consider if you want to be taken in hand. Here are just a few of the issues you might want to think about and discuss.

My husband and I face the world as a team

Bramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation!

Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silent

A man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous.

A small but touching act of kindness

When Otter had a problem her husband came to the rescue. A touching account of a small but lovely act of kindness.

Consent, control, connection

Without control and consent to that control, for many Taken In Hand people there is no erotic connection and nothing to feed the relationship.

In defence of books like Fascinating Womanhood

When reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless.

It is working as advertised!

For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised.

Have you found a proper balance?

Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy.

If I asked for the moon...

You won't want to miss this moving article. It is about the generosity of spirit that real love brings.

My marriage is a safe haven

Bramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights.

What Taken In Hand is, and what it is not

Taken In Hand has received a lot of flak in its time – from the accusation that we're a bunch of sick perverts, to the accusation that – well, I am not even going to repeat it, it is so vicious. Let's set the record straight here and now! Don't miss this post!

A relationship of equals

Adam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements.

Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doom

Baltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage.

Is there consent?

When a man takes or takes a woman in hand and she seems to be resisting and complaining, is there consent? It depends.

I want it all, and I want it now!

The other day, I heard the Queen song, I want it all, and have not been able to get it out of my head since. Sometimes I am so aware of how much there is to feel and do and experience before it's game over, that it is difficult to be patient. I want it all, and I want it now! If this sounds like you, you won't want to miss this article!

Hands-on approach

Howard Frank explains his gentle but firm hands-on approach with his wife, and talks about what he has discovered on this journey of increased connection and intimacy.

My perfect guy, and the marriage he has given me

In this exuberant and very interesting article, Issie explains that the way she and her husband choose to relate is not about pointless physical punishments but about traditional roles which obviate the ubiquitous battles for leadership and consequent disharmony.

Creating an unbreakable bond of love takes time

Blush had to wait and wait before Gary would take her in hand physically. Gary was in control.