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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Honouring those you loveDo the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Is he head of the household?If a man is kind and generous-hearted, can he be head of the household? Yes of course! Those who aren't, shouldn't be. Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now! Different strokes for different folksEven within Taken In Hand, different individuals have very different preferences. The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book reviewOne reader found this book helpful. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. A small but touching act of kindnessWhen Otter had a problem her husband came to the rescue. A touching account of a small but lovely act of kindness. In defence of books like Fascinating WomanhoodWhen reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless. It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. Have you found a proper balance?Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy. Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?Glitter wants a man who has self-control and integrity – like her grandfather. Are you submissive to all men or to only one man?Since telling her husband that she wanted a Taken In Hand relationship, Charlotte has found that other men seem to sense that she feels very strongly that she belongs to her husband. Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. How often do you have sex?Couples in good relationships tend to be more sexually engaged with each other even in later life. What it is that we doHere is a couple who clearly adore each other and who take pleasure in pleasing one another. I love the warmth and the humour and the natural, non-stereotypical way they seem to interact. This is not about the specifics of what they do, but about the underlying attitude they have. I hope you find this piece as charming as I do. Giving my best to my man who put his foot downStrange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship. Men taking responsibilityOne of the benefits of Taken In Hand that Charlotte has noticed is that it encourages men to take responsibility. Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. Working wivesSome women are thrilled that their husbands do not allow them to work outside the home; others revel in the fact that their husbands take them in hand and also support their wish to work. This working women would prefer not to work but does because she loves and submits to her husband, and he prefers her to work. My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doomBaltazar (husband of CondusedofHomeCounties) talks about how they moved to a Taken In Hand relationship and how he discovered that taking his wife in hand helped stop rows getting out of hand, and may just have saved their marriage. How I turned the fantasy into realityAfter the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game. I want it all, and I want it now!The other day, I heard the Queen song, I want it all, and have not been able to get it out of my head since. Sometimes I am so aware of how much there is to feel and do and experience before it's game over, that it is difficult to be patient. I want it all, and I want it now! If this sounds like you, you won't want to miss this article! My perfect guy, and the marriage he has given meIn this exuberant and very interesting article, Issie explains that the way she and her husband choose to relate is not about pointless physical punishments but about traditional roles which obviate the ubiquitous battles for leadership and consequent disharmony. What you need to know about Taken In HandWhat is Taken In Hand about? A return to times past in which many women had no choice? Or stepping into a future free from prescriptions and proscriptions about the sort of relationships deemed acceptable? If you are in any doubt, hit the read article link now! Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone? |