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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Honouring those you loveNoticing and noting the positiveSully's example is a nice reminder to us all to take the trouble to express appreciation when something good happens, rather than focusing on negatives. Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wiselyM.D. on when not to forcibly take your wife, even if you have her consent to take her whenever you want. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. Why is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. How my husband set me freeDon't miss this beautiful piece by Peach. The man who doesn't give a stuff about labelsMarie thought she wanted an alpha male, until she met a man confident enough to be gentle and protective. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? Pleasing your man makes you feel more lovey and lustyIt may be out of fashion but many women positively enjoy making their husband's life more pleasant. We were virgins when we marriedIt can be fun to learn together. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. My friend, my lover, my rockThis is how one reader describes her husband. How do you describe yours? My first Taken in Hand experienceUnlike the stereotypical woman, this writer loves cars. But... Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?That's what you think. But it might be that you are inadvertently undermining him because you cannot see the man he is. You may think this is definitely not the case, but it is worth taking steps to make sure that it is not you who are the barrier to change. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? Saying things for effectWhen a man says he doesn't care what the woman he loves wants, is he serious, or is he saying it for effect? This piece explains why you are less likely to hear so many statements said for effect in a Taken In Hand marriage than in some other kinds of relationships. (And no, this is not to say that Taken In Hand is better, merely to point out a difference!) The power of a woman who submits to her manDo not make the mistake of thinking that a woman in a Taken In Hand relationship is not powerful. She is very powerful, as Mike explains. How we have stayed happily married for over 30 yearsLife is never perfect, but marriage is what you make it, and Kat and her husband evidently know what is important. Who wants a slave?Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’? Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!These anecdotes from Rabbi Shmuley Boteach's wonderful book, Kosher Sex, might help. Shades of greyPaul cautions against black-and-white thinking in Taken In Hand relationships. Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?A glimpse at an article that has stayed with me for three years. 2005 Jul 19 - 09:00 | read article | permanent link
Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! On being the servant-leader in my relationshipStephen keeps in mind the “servant” bit of “servant-leader”. No wonder his wife spoils him! Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. How should a woman dress?What's a girl to do?! Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? |