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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Honouring yourselfWhy is commitment important?Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. A dominant man brainwashed into submissionJust as some women grow up with the idea that the desire to live under the control of a man is unacceptable and needs to be overcome, some men also grow up with the idea that the desire to be in control in a relationship is unacceptable and needs to be overcome. This website aims to promote real choice, by letting it be known that there are thousands and thousands and thousands of happy, stable, well-adjusted Taken In Hand couples out there. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. How my husband set me freeDon't miss this beautiful piece by Peach. The man who doesn't give a stuff about labelsMarie thought she wanted an alpha male, until she met a man confident enough to be gentle and protective. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. Enjoying consensual sexual aggressionOn the joy of consensual ravishment in a Taken In Hand relationship. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. The missionary positionWhy do some Taken In Hand folk love the much-maligned missionary position? Sublimated desiresMany modern women have suppressed their deep desire for a male-led relationship because of societal pressure to prefer an ‘equal’ relationship. This may explain the massive growth in BDSM erotica aimed at submissive women. That it is not safe to admit to wanting or being in a Taken In Hand relationship may also explain why so many women have turned to BDSM, which bends over backwards to be non-sexist and pansexual. The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. A lifetime of denial endsBlueRose calls it a lifetime of denial, but in some cases it is just an inability to pinpoint what we want. (I'm still working on it, myself!) In other cases, the denial is functional and important because the psychological autonomy of the person is too fragile at that time to handle a power exchange relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! The unexpected benefits of surrendering controlLearning to surrender control has had several pleasant side effects for Otter. For example, she is now much more relaxed and lets the future take care of itself. Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. Too feminine?On how I sometimes get an earful for being “too feminine”, and how I feel about that. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! How should a woman dress?What's a girl to do?! He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Do the right thing - be the captain of your shipSome excellent advice for the man whose wife or girlfriend wants to be taken in hand. Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now! My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. It is working as advertised!For Louise and her husband, Taken In Hand has, as it were, worked as advertised. Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?Glitter wants a man who has self-control and integrity – like her grandfather. Are you submissive to all men or to only one man?Since telling her husband that she wanted a Taken In Hand relationship, Charlotte has found that other men seem to sense that she feels very strongly that she belongs to her husband. Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. Giving my best to my man who put his foot downStrange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship. Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. Practical hints for men - you are allowed to enjoy it!For Carlf's timely reminder that this whole thing is supposed to be a source of pleasure, not a sacrifice, hit the read article now! A reality check for criticsIs it true that a good man would not get rough with a woman who likes that? Or that women who want to be dominated are misguided and naïve and will end up getting abused? Or that they should settle for a bit of spanking, DD, or BDSM instead? |