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Being head of the householdAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. A mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wiselyM.D. on when not to forcibly take your wife, even if you have her consent to take her whenever you want. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! A childhood memoryDon't miss Princess4rev's charming account of a childhood memory jogged by reading this site. Exercise authoritySometimes the relationship needs a spanking, in which case it might be a mistake to wait for a ‘good reason’, as CarlF so rightly says. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. Needing my wifeSam has his wife Missy very much in hand, and she has him very much in heart. Loving, supportive and kind controlA man can feel the need to be in control without feeling any inclination for that control to be oppressive or in any way unpleasant for the woman he loves. A man in charge needs to be firm and steadyStephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. Men serve and lead, women receive and obeyUnder His Wing explains that to obey is not the same thing as serving. What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Not a lower-case girlWhy Coryman's girl doesn't call him him sir, eat out of a dog bowl, wear a collar or write her name in lower-case. Si vis pacem, para bellumIf you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! Who wants a slave?Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’? Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?A glimpse at an article that has stayed with me for three years. 2005 Jul 19 - 09:00 | read article | permanent link
Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. Alternative therapyWarning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. |