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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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Men wearing the trousers/pants in the relationshipAlpha males and the women who love themLaura on what she loves about real alpha males. Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! First there were the boys... then there was BobbyMost men were intimidated by Bella. But not Bobby. Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Can you be in charge without turning into her mother?Mistakes are common when couples change the basis of their relationship, so it is wise to take it slowly and be alert for signs that there is a problem. Assume that you will have to make changes as you go along. Those who are flexible and open to making changes are likely to do better. Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. He's in charge. . . but I do it my wayIs there one undisputed leader in your relationship? If so, what does that mean in practice? Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?It is often said that a man should not need to get physical to remain in charge of his woman. Tevemer points out the flaws in this idea. On being a manA man must have the capacity to look beyond himself. An alpha female bares her throat only to her mateA strong woman might want might well want to be cherished by a stronger man, and she might well not be generally submissive or want to be treated like a servant. My husband and I face the world as a teamBramble's beautiful relationship sounds like my grandparents' relationship. I love the mutual respect and kindness here. An inspitation! Giving up control is not easyGiving up control to the degree Otter has done is really not easy, should not be rushed, and is not for everyone; but for Otter, ultimately, it has relieved stress. In defence of books like Fascinating WomanhoodWhen reading books like Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife, you have to apply some common sense and not lose your critical faculties. But they can still be worth reading, nevertheless. A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!It is often the strongest, most fiesty women who want to be taken in hand. We're not all submissive!Sometimes, being stuck with someone else's ill-fitting label can be a real drag. If you don't like to be labelled “submissive”, others should respect that. A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose againstFor some men, the ideal relationship would be with a strong, independent, fiesty woman... who wants an even stronger man. Have you found a proper balance?Noone argues that to find a good balance a man has to be a tough softy. Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?What is the difference between being submissive (if you're a woman) on the one hand, and being Taken In Hand on the other? Or is there any difference? It depends whom you ask! How my husband makes me meltLouise on the power of her husband's newfound calm, to soothe her into submissiveness. Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?Glitter wants a man who has self-control and integrity – like her grandfather. Could this kind of relationship be for you?What exactly is a Taken In Hand relationship? What is the secret recipe?What is it about being thoroughly taken in hand and spanked that produces profound effects like these? Is this really consensual?I hope that this will extinguish any doubts anyone might have that Taken In Hand is about consensual relationships only. Giving my best to my man who put his foot downStrange though it may seem, some women passionately want a man who will put his foot down and wear the trousers in the relationship. Practical hints for men - handling a strong womanCarlf with some advice for men about taking a strong woman in hand. In my roomFosti on how he sees his role as the head of his household. Not to be missed! Enjoying our relationshipBabydoll is so happy that her husband loves their Taken In Hand relationship and glad that he felt able to show her his dominant side even after an unfortunately bad past relationship. Practical hints for men - you are allowed to enjoy it!For Carlf's timely reminder that this whole thing is supposed to be a source of pleasure, not a sacrifice, hit the read article now! Practical hints for men - times of stressCarlf offers some advice to men about maintaining a Taken In Hand relationship through times of stress. My marriage is a safe havenBramble doesn't fear her husband and nor does she want to. She is the one her husband protects, not the one he fights. Ownership as bondingIn this beautiful piece, Noone explains why it is not unreasonable to think of the intense bonding of a monogamous relationship as being in some sense ownership. Happy living in fear of a man?!If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now! Dominance, integrity and needing to feel superiorMore thoughts about dominant men and the mistake some insecure men make in thinking that being dominant means being right, superior, better than women. A relationship of equalsAdam's vision of a Taken In Hand relationship – a relationship of equals, with both modern and traditional elements. |