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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... I do like the Taken In Hand focus on family and the focus that marriage is between one man and one woman. That is actually very important to me.” “[I]n Taken In Hand, I am enhancing and extending my power as a woman, and enriching my life and personality. I give up NOTHING, and gain the world.... [M]y perception of Taken In Hand is that there are few other venues that can compare for teaching men the responsible, healthy uses of power. It gives men skills and confidence they can use not just in their sexual relationships, but also with their children, in their professions, and out in the community. Taken In Hand requires a far higher level of courage, sacrifice, responsibility, and personal integrity than many so-called ‘doms’ will even think to aspire to.” “Taken In Hand is about having the man in charge because you like it like that, it's not about blind obedience or never having your own way about anything.” “I feel the best spanking site is Taken in Hand. 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[...] For women who have longed for a relationship such as this and have no idea where to start, this is a great site for you. For men that want to better understand the whole concept from a women’s point of view, this site is a must read.” “It's a great site.” “If you think my perspective on dating isn't politically correct you should go read Taken In Hand. [It has] posts with titles like, When rape is a gift. You go, girl. Defy those hairy-armpitted feminists and enjoy yourself. :)” “great site.” “There are lots of websites for people in the BDSM, D/s, DD (domestic discipline) and spanking communities. There are websites for people who belong to religions that advocate male-head-of-household marriage. There are even websites for Christians who are interested in BDSM. But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. I'm just glad I found a site that makes me realize I'm not a freak for wanting to be dominated” “I was delighted to receive word of Taken In Hand. ... a very thoughtful and well-written group blog. ... I'm looking forward to reading through this blog the way I look forward to reading a new novel by a favorite author. It looks that good.” “Wow. This site is so amazing.” ““[Taken In Hand is] a wonderful website ... from a MaleDom/femsub perspective ... [I]t's about the interpersonal dynamics of loving relationships where the man is the boss. [I]t's assumed that both partners are in it because that's what they want and have chosen. Also, unlike many other ‘traditional marriage’ sites, it's not coming from any sort of biblical perspective. ... Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
Kindness in a relationshipNoticing and noting the positiveSully's example is a nice reminder to us all to take the trouble to express appreciation when something good happens, rather than focusing on negatives. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Sleeping positions, rituals and controlAnother charming piece by CarlF. Taken out of my anguishMany readers will identify with Dynomite's charming article. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationshipSome couples' marriages are most definitely Taken In Hand but involve nothing even remotely resembline rules and punishment. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. The man who doesn't give a stuff about labelsMarie thought she wanted an alpha male, until she met a man confident enough to be gentle and protective. BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationshipBeing in a Taken In Hand relationship involving BDSM practices sounds like a source of great joy for this clearly very happy wife. Needing my wifeSam has his wife Missy very much in hand, and she has him very much in heart. Handle with care... and honor and fidelitySam has a message for men on the importance of fidelity, honour, and handling a woman with care. When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. My friend, my lover, my rockThis is how one reader describes her husband. How do you describe yours? A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Effect positive change by acting as if...Instead of behaving badly to provoke your husband into taking you in hand, take this much more constructive course of action. Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?Are you like a pair of wooden gears, meshing together better and better as the teeth age? How we have stayed happily married for over 30 yearsLife is never perfect, but marriage is what you make it, and Kat and her husband evidently know what is important. A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the coupleBlush on the relationship between Gary's kindness and magnanimity to her and her kindness and magnanimity to others. An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... We should consider ourselves so luckyThis beautiful piece by Lucy describes her quintessentially Taken In Hand relationship and the wonderful man who loves her. Essential reading! Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!These anecdotes from Rabbi Shmuley Boteach's wonderful book, Kosher Sex, might help. Giving each other what we needAurora on the peace and safety of a Taken In Hand relationship. Shades of greyPaul cautions against black-and-white thinking in Taken In Hand relationships. Do you have unrealistic expectations?Are you a person who lives and breathes the idea that human beings are fallible and does not expect the impossible, or are you a person who hasn't really grasped that everyone makes mistakes? If you tend to feel very upset or angry about faults in others, or if you tend to focus on the negative instead of on the positive, it might be that you have unrealistic expectations and infallibilist tendencies. This is likely to be making your life much less happy and good than it could be. Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?A glimpse at an article that has stayed with me for three years. 2005 Jul 19 - 09:00 | read article | permanent link
Equality through Taken in Hand?BlueRose has discovered an unexpected benefit of Taken In Hand: her husband is treating her better and more as an equal than he was before! Listening isn't weakMen sometimes (understandably!) fear looking weak or being manipulated so much that they are intransigent and don't listen when it would really be better if they did. What is a man to do? Do with me what you willJeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his. A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. First there were the boys... then there was BobbyMost men were intimidated by Bella. But not Bobby. Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Taken in hand by tendernessAmeribritwife asked her husband to help her wake up earlier. Hit the read article link to find out what happened. Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsTo read Kat's touching tribute to her husband, hit the read article link now. Is he head of the household?If a man is kind and generous-hearted, can he be head of the household? Yes of course! Those who aren't, shouldn't be. How we stopped fighting and became happier togetherA week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now. Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?A Taken In Hand relationship is about the two indiviuals engaging and connecting. To find out how Jett really pays attention and takes into account his mate's wishes, hit the read article link now! The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book reviewOne reader found this book helpful. |