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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... 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The exercise of authority in a consensual relationshipAre you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. A mysterious compulsion to obeyLoise on the mysterious effect of a certain tone of voice. Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasureLouise muses on the peculiar phenomenon of women choosing to obey their husbands, and being thrilled by their husband's control. Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wiselyM.D. on when not to forcibly take your wife, even if you have her consent to take her whenever you want. As the head of our household I put my wife firstGary points out that a good leader serves. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. Exercise authoritySometimes the relationship needs a spanking, in which case it might be a mistake to wait for a ‘good reason’, as CarlF so rightly says. Responding to his loving controlA year ago Pondering would have scoffed had anyone told her she’d be feeling as she does now. Agreements are a two-way streetThe Taken In Hand relationship is an agreement between the two spouses, and to have a good relationship, it is important to uphold agreements. An expression of his authorityCori appreciates her man firmly exerting his authority over her. How Taken In Hand makes the mundane eroticTaken In Hand dynamics are very powerful, as this writer indicates. It's not because he's infallibleIn Taken In Hand relationships in which there is corporal punishment, it is all one way: husband spanking wife. People often ask if this means we think the man is infallible or the woman inferior. In her inimitable way, Louise sets the record straight. A happy end to marital deadlockIf your marriage is charactised by cold silences and angry fights or a lot of unhappiness, is there any way Taken In Hand might save it? Alpha Husband thinks Taken In Hand can indeed solve the problem. I think it is possible, but not unless both spouses make the effort to turn towards each other. It can't be all on the man. The woman needs to make an effort too. She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. Loving, supportive and kind controlA man can feel the need to be in control without feeling any inclination for that control to be oppressive or in any way unpleasant for the woman he loves. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!If you doubt that your Taken In Hand wife wants you to assert yourself, hit the read article link now! Take her in hand without lifting a fingerForty-something wife gives an example of how Taken In Hand has worked to improve her marriage. An overview of Taken In HandIn a nutshell... Is spanking always sexual?In a Taken In Hand relationship, is spanking always sexual? Or is it sometimes definitely not sexual? Yes, it's more on this long-running debate. (Try not to groan!) Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. Keep your sense of humour!For some couples Taken In Hand has the effect of making it possible to laugh in situations that would once have been sources of tension. Alternative therapyWarning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship. The subjection of womenTo all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help. A good leader accepts that he is only humanIn a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spankingBeing taken in hand is not about spanking. Sometimes Tevemer's husband takes her in hand without spanking her at all. Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there. Could you be a slave, owned, property?Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave? Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Familiarity breeds contemptAn argument against “excessive familiarity” in close relationships. Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why. A woman must know that her man caresBeing a husband is not about being a warden, it is about caring. |